Im 14, and my step-brother is 17 -- we've lived together for 9 years, we had trouble when he first moved in when he tried to kill me and himself by setting the house on fire -- he's had trouble with his mum for years, when she rejected him at age 4 . But two or three years ago - we started getting on really well, and he flirts with me all the time - at first I thought it was just me imagining things but he started holding my hands all the time and keeps asking me to massage him while he's in bed, its really odd - but he is good looking and has a girlfriend but is always texting me while he's with her - asking how I am? And where I'm going? It doesn't help that my classmates all fancy him - when he meets me frm school - they think he's my boyfriend! What should I do? HELP ME!

It's not normal for a 17 year old boy to hold hands with his sister and ask for massages. There's no way to tell by your post, but he could be up to no good.

If you can, talk to your Mom or a trusted relative about it. Avoid being alone with him. If he tries to hold your hand, pull away and remind him that you are his sister.

He's 17 and you're 14 - this is too much of an age difference at your age.

If it feels creepy to you, then it is. Stop holding hands, stop being in his bedroom, don't answer his texts - it's clearly sexual and he's giving out the wrong signals if people think he's your BF.

Just tell him you feel really uncomfortable, and ask him to stop.

He's got a GF. He should be holding her hand and she should be giving him massages.

Don't allow yourself to be pressured into doing something you feel uncomfortable with!

Tell him to treat you like a sister, and not a girlfriend, and if he doesn't, its time to talk to mom, and dad.

It is important that you do two things.

The first thing is you need to tell an adult in your life that you are feeling uncomfortable with the behaviour of your step-brother.

Then you have to tell him to back off, you've talked to so and so, and keep the contact clean.

No explanation necessary. He knows full well what he is doing, and you have reinforced your resolve by handling the situation head on, honestly, and have likely avoided future problems that most likely would have otherwise occurred.

I agree with the others, don't do anything that will encourage his behavior, he's being a creep, tell him to back off.