I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but he has never invited me to his house because he lives with his baby mama. I now I have dealt with this situation this long but what should I do?

I'm confused. His baby mama is his baby's mother? So this would be his live in girlfriend or his wife?

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Originally Posted by asking

I'm confused. His baby mama is his baby's mother? So this would be his live in girlfriend or his wife?

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Do you think I should continue this relationship with him. He says his baby's mother has no where to stay right now, and she is working on moving out but I honestly don't know what to think?

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Originally Posted by cori123

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but he has never invited me to his house because he lives with his baby mama. I now I have dealt with this situation this long but what should I do?

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That's weird...

1- Does SHE know about you? Silly question but it's pretty important

2- WHY does he still live with her?

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Originally Posted by cori123

Do you think I should continue this relationship with him. He says his baby's mother has no where to stay right now, and she is working on moving out but I honestly don't know what to think?

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Personally, I find it odd that he has not invited you over. Have you talked about this? If not you should. Without arguing-- simply ask!

I think that 2 years is a long time on working on moving. Is he still paying for all the bills? Does she even work, go to school? She can go on social assitance or get a job and live on her own. If they are no longer together either she starts paying up her part of the rent or she needs to get her own place.

Not many broken up couples can still live together and remain seperated-- because he is not inviting you I suspect she gets jealous or maybe they are still hooking up.

It's just well something you NEED to talk about with your boyfriend...

I'm confused ? :confused:

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Originally Posted by cori123

Do you think I should continue this relationship with him. He says his baby's mother has no where to stay right now, and she is working on moving out but I honestly don't know what to think?

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No. I don't think you should continue this relationship with him. This is not a healthy situation for you, which I guess you know, or you would not be asking. You need a man who is all your own, not one who is living with another woman.

I think he's stringing you along. If you are never invited to his house, I personally would just assume that she does not know about you, or very little. I would treat this man as if he were married because essentially he is, even if it's a common-law marriage.

I'm really sorry you have found yourself in this situation. It sounds painful and humiliating.

Well, I'm going to be really cynical here.

He lives with the mother of his baby, and won't invite you over?.
It's been 2 years, that's a REALLY long time for her to be 'working on moving out'.

I hear very loud alarm bells ringing... are you sure you're not the third string on his bow?

Sounds extremely suspicious to me. Perhaps it's time to pay him and his 'baby-mama' a surprise visit.

Only he can answer your questions,but I smell a rat here,2 years? I don't think he's being honest with you.

Please remove yourself from this situation.

If you have never questioned the particular facts of this situation, and gotten satisfactory answers, then its time to go.

It shocks me you have stayed with him this long.

Wow.

I am going through a similar situation. I have been dating a guy for 3 months and he never invited me over either. He told me that he lived with his brother, but when I started prying he finally confessed that he lived with his baby mama because he had no where else to go. He told her about me but I know they are sleeping together. I guess that's why we have never had sex. In my heart I know that I should remove myself but I like him a lot. I think after the holidays I am going to let this thing go. I am attractive, have my own home and a good job. So I am the complete package for any man. I would say, step back and take a look at the entire situation and then do what you think is best for you.

Thank your for your insight on my situation. Your comment really helped me since you are going through the same situation.

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Originally Posted by Ladyk43

I am going through a similar situation. I have been dating a guy for 3 months and he never invited me over either. He told me that he lived with his brother, but when I started prying he finally confessed that he lived with his baby mama because he had no where else to go. He told her about me but I know they are sleeping together. I guess that's why we have never had sex. In my heart I know that I should remove myself but I like him a lot. I think after the holidays I am going to let this thing go. I am attractive, have my own home and a good job. So I am the complete package for any man. I would say, step back and take a look at the entire situation and then do what you think is best for you.

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I am in the same sitation that you are in its been a year and he lives with his babymama what I'm doing is I'm giving him a year to get all his **** togetheter and have he out with in a year and I love my boyfriend so much so I'm wating to see what he does and she does know about me but at the same time she doesn't you need to do what you feel is right for you and don't linstine to what anybody else has to say goodluck