Bare with me if this is long, but it's necessary.
I joined a boarding school when I was 9 years old and remained there for the next 9 years. Did well in academics and sports. Had a couple of friends ( no girls, this was an all boy's school). And after my high school graduation I came into America for college. My friends in a similar fashion are spread out around the world continuing with their higher education.
Now this is where things started really changing. I'm now a sophomore here, and as I look back at the past year it seems I have accomplished nothing. I have no friends, of course I don't even know how to talk to girls so I let them be, and my grades suck because well I feel I'm depressed.
My future doesn't look too bright either, I am going to be living this year in a studio apartment.
It seems I don't know how to make friends. I am very self-conscious, so am very concerned about what others think of me. Even now when I should be studying for my test I am lamenting here :(
My only friend seems to be this squirrel who's eating my pumpkin which I got for halloween.. it's really cute.. although still runs away if I approach it.
My family is far away, and I try and be strong when I talk to them and don't hassle them with my problems because I never had a close relationship with them. My old friends are forgotten. We have all lost touch.
Im 20 years old now, never been in a relationship or even a close friend relation. I think I might start crying and do something stupid.

I'll be your friend. We may be polar opposites, but I won't judge you, and I'm not hypersensitive.

Email me sometime... [email protected]

You can't make friends if you don't go out and try for some! Also, it's better to have a few good friends than many bad ones. If you want to make friends, start chatting with people at school or work, get people's phone numbers and text them, you could also try social networking... There are many options out there to find friends and beat lonliness, it's just a matter of getting out there and going for it, which, is often the hardest part. If you are shy (like I am) join existing onversations between coworkers and other students instead of start them.

(oh yeah, and talking to women usually doesn't take much skill, if you have similar interests, you're sure to hit things off.)

Well I never was a talker, very quiet and more observant than taking part in the conversations. Mostly because I never had an impulse to speak out.. and no one corrected me then and I'm finding it hard to change...

Thank you for wishing to talk to me, but it's best if I don't make my problems part of your lives. And I find living around happy people makes me happy too :)
But your gestures are very much appreciated.

I do meet people in the class and do have some numbers.. but I never do get a call to hang out with them.. it's mostly related to work.
My loneliness is more on the personal level. No close friends to do crazy things with, or some people who know what I really am and aren't going to just walk away from me.

It seems hopeless..
And this ache seems to hurt more than any other physical wound I have experienced..

What are some of your interests? Could you make time for a part-time job? I was thinking of a time I moved to a strange town. I had not a friend in sight. I joined a dart league, started a bartending job, and poof! I had more than enough people to hang with.
Hope this helps. I know you said you were quiet. But most people just want someone who will listen. So its something for you to ponder anyway.

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well i never was a talker, very quiet and more observant than taking part in the conversations. Mostly because i never had an impulse to speak out.. and no one corrected me then and I'm finding it hard to change...

Thank you for wishing to talk to me, but it's best if i don't make my problems part of your lives. And i find living around happy people makes me happy too :)
But your gestures are very much appreciated.

I do meet people in the class and do have some numbers.. but i never do get a call to hang out with them.. it's mostly related to work.
My loneliness is more on the personal level. No close friends to do crazy things with, or some people who know what i really am and aren't going to just walk away from me.

It seems hopeless..
and this ache seems to hurt more than any other physical wound I have experienced..

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Hi, young man.
Please don't mind and if I could call you like that.
What you experienced was my experience in my mid-school, however, when I get into college, I found everything changed...
You have to know that everyone likes to be a friend of others, I mean, you should be more confident with your communication.And, I have some advice for you:
1.Just take it easy whatever you do. No one would tease you unless yourself.
2.Devoting with yourself in something you like, you would find that you're the special one! This is important.
3.Try to learn more as you can! I mean, such as sports like NBA,football,some news.etc. Then, when you talk to others, you would be more smooth-talking.
4.There is no problems with you, please try to have your faith about that.

Well I understand now more clearly what I have to do.
It seems more than direction, I wanted reassurances. And I thank you all for your replies.
I'm not much of a religious person, but
God Bless you all.

Hi again sahaven, just take it easy, and I think you would be OK. Wish you happy!

Thanks!

Hi there, Do you feel regected being sent off to boarding school and afraid of getting close to anyone?.

*Life isn't a rehursal get out there and live it to the max*

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Hi there, Do you feel regected being sent off to boarding school and afraid of getting close to anyone?...

*Life isnt a rehursal get out there and live it to the max*

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Yes, in a way I do feel that.
But now I have started to feel that maybe I just suck and it's better if no one knows me at all. It's good for them, because I don't like myself anymore.
Im messed up.
An interesting note. I noticed that people naturally just start conversations with someone if they are physically attractive. And I really am below average in looks, so that doesn't help me at all.
When ever I try to start a conversation, I get called a creep. If it was a good looking person, I think it would be otherwise.

I am so desperate, upset, I just don’t know why I am still exist. Why?? I got con by a online tutor, I trusted them, I really do. But they got me fail my final coursework, ended I fail everything that I have worked for last 3 years. Money, time all gone. Why I am so unlucky?? Why?? Why?? I can’t even tell my partner, I can’t imagine what is his response. Tell me why there is so many conman out there? Why is me?? Why?? Why??

I'm not sure how to answer you, but if you want more people to see your post and get some more helpful responses, try starting a new thread.

Good Luck,
God Bless