I dated a guy for two weeks after he announced that's he loves me and wanted to be with me forever, cause he used to monitor me being part of my group of friends for over a year, however at that time he was dating another girl but had problems with her and although he promised her marriage ( which I didn't know till later on ) which was the reason she converted her religion for him,
The thing is I was just out of a major break up with loads of financial problems, jobless & lost my best friend cause I acepted to date him, he was kind, warm & generous, but never the less I started treating this guy badly, never showed him I cared for him, I bascly was really scared of him coming on very strong with his emotions which made me really scared of falling in love with him cause I didn't want him to break my heart, I pushed him away so many times but he came back always cause he loved me but when he went out partying once without telling me with one of my girlfriends I called him a lier and hang up on him, after that he stopped calling me, deleted me from msn & face book & after three weeks he went back to his ex and they got engaged.
I feel lost cause I really loved him and although I didn't show it to him it hurts to hear about his engagement & I feel betrayed & dumbed, I want him back but how!!

You were on the rebound,you pushed him away and now he's marrying his ex? You don't get him back,you take charge of your life and heal from your breakups and get your life back on track.
At the top of the relationship page there are stickies with lots of good advice how to handle breakups.

Sorry my dear but when you chase someone away, they very seldom come back. I hope you learned the value of treating someone well, and listening to their side before going off on them.

I also suspect he wasn't that into you any way, so you may have saved yourself much heartache later.

Chalk this up as a lesson learned, and be a lot more cautious who you trust your heart with, or even who's words you believe.

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I dated a guy for two weeks after he announced that's he loves me and wanted to be with me forever,

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You fell for that old line??

I know you've probably heard this before, but you can't have him. Relationships are two sided. What good would it be if you had him and he never wanted it. You can't change people, only yourself. Only wish for his happiness openly, and secretly hope he comes back. Promise yourself you will be different, and then try to practice it...

Please don't start multiple threads. Your duplicate thread has been deleted.

After 2 weeks a guy tells you that he wants to be with you forever. Does that not raise any red flags to you?

You should focus on yourself and making yourself a better person. Learn from your mistakes so that it doesn't happen again.

You treated this guy badly? Maybe. Maybe you listened to a part of your brain that is now on vacation.

He said that he loved you and wanted to spend forever with you after 'monitoring' you for a year (that's creepy). During that time he was not only seeing someone else, he was engaged to her and obviously she felt it was a strong enough relationship to convert to his religion. He left her to pursue you. That doesn't sound like a stable individual.

He knew you were just out of a relationship and took the risk of being a rebound. You were scared and it sounds like he didn't care what your feelings were. He wanted what he wanted. Until, he was caught playing games with another female (I wonder if he loved her too. Actually, I wonder if he tried telling the same 'innocent' story to you that he probably told his then ex about you). Then you get mad and he gets defensive and runs away. I wonder if that is how he ended his first relationship with the woman before you?

Now, he is back with his ex. The one he dumped to play games with you. You don't want him back if you have any self-respect. How many more skirts do you think he can chase before his 'fiancée' gets him down the aisle? Let her wonder who he is chasing.

Let yourself heal from both relationships and find someone who truly does love you and wants to spend forever working together to build a great relationship.

Look, I don't know if he was creepy or not, but I do know, from what you said that you treated him badly.

Sounds like he put himself on the line for you - even if if he did make some dramatic statements like wanting to marry you.

You say you didn't want to fall in love with him so you kept your distance and treated him mean, and now you say you love him after he decided he's had enough and got engaged to his Ex.

He sounds impetuous, and you both sound like you need to treat the concept of relationships and marriage with more respect.

Move on and learn from this experience otherwise you'll keep attracting losers.