I feel like my marriage is falling apart
I am in need of advice. I have been married for 3 years but now I feel like its all falling apart. Sometimes I feel like I don't even love my husband anymore. We fight constantly about every little thing. I'm fed up with having to do everything in this relationship. I have to pull double shifts just to make ends meet. My husband lost his job about a year ago and hasn't gotten a new one yet. It's not that he can't find one, it's that he simply won't. My husband doesn't do anything that I ask him to do. Even getting to take our dog out while I'm at work is a huge battle. After I get home from working a 12 hour shift, I still have to take care of all the household responsibilities, like cooking and laundry and the like. Even though he is home all day long, he doesn't do the simplest chores, even if I leave lists or notes or call and remind him. The worst part is, I can't get mad at him for anything, or talk to him about our problems without getting an hour or so lecture about how I'm a horrible, selfish person. My husband hasn't always been like this, but I don't know how to get him to go back to being the man I fell in love with 8 years ago. I know that I said "for better or worse" but I don't know how much of the worse I can take. I welcome and advice, suggestions and payers.