Hey,

Im a Teenager , soon fifteen and I'm worried about my body :( I am confident but not enough its getting the better of me, I'm depressed and paranoyed about it 24-7, everyone says you grow at different times but I feel way behind my best friends is a year younger than me but she's in my year she has a great figure and I feel really self conscious round her,out of place the only thing is she shows it like that she enjoys her recently I confronted her with her flauntingness as you might say and she just laughs at me and says your just jealous :( I don't know what to do I know I will get answers back saying patience or give it time but the thing is everyone is saying things about it to me and I feel so embarrassed I hate this feeling! I was thinking about asking my mum to get me hormone pills but what if they change me completley:confused: .
I had nowhere else to turn than this because my bestfriends are laughing.. Help me Please I Just Need Opinions , thank you x

It is true that you need to "have patience" and "give it time." But it's also important not to freak out! It's going to be all right, all these things have their time. Instead of pushing your body to the limit in order to get it to do what you want (hormone pills at 14? Don't bother,) you need to give your body time to adjust. I know what its like to have "competition" so to speak. I'm a twin, so when it came to puberty it was always a race to see who developed faster and sooner than the other.
The thing is, everyone is different, but no matter who you are- it takes time. Don't get jealous of girls that have physically matured faster than you- after all, one day soon your body will mature too... It's just a matter of time. While you're waiting though, don't worry, don't freak out, and don't get all jealous and worked up over other girls, it's not worth getting jealous over something that will happen to you in the near future.

If you look at people on the street you will first see that no two are built the same, there is different sizes, shapes and figures.

And after that all change and mature at different times,
So just be yourself

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

If you look at people on the street you will first see that no two are built the same, there is different sizes, shapes and figures.

and after that all change and mature at different times,
So just be yourself

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i know that i shouldnt get worried and stuff but its like i get slagged off about it and other things going on my life ,i just really dont need it and i know but you would think by 14 you would be abit more mature but the thing is i am more mature mentally rather than physically and my friends are like you really need to stop being so stiff but i can't help it

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Originally Posted by jaime90

It is true that you need to "have patience" and "give it time." But it's also important not to freak out! It's going to be alright, all these things have their time. Instead of pushing your body to the limit in order to get it to do what you want (hormone pills at 14? Don't bother,) you need to give your body time to adjust. I know what its like to have "competition" so to speak. I'm a twin, so when it came to puberty it was always a race to see who developed faster and sooner than the other.
The thing is, everyone is different, but no matter who you are- it takes time. Don't get jealous of girls that have physically matured faster than you- after all, one day soon your body will mature too...It's just a matter of time. While you're waiting though, don't worry, don't freak out, and don't get all jealous and worked up over other girls, it's not worth getting jealous over something that will happen to you in the near future.

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I really Appreciate you thoughts and answers. But its not that its like its just girls telling me stuff its everyone and i hate it ! i wasnt sure if i could cope with everything for a while , like other stuff going on and had a bit of a collapse or whatever but people do comfort me well someone does but i can't tell him things like this because its embarrassing

When people compare themselves to others in a way that is meant to put the other person down it usually means that the person being mean is feeling insecure about themselves in some way. These people might seem confident but it isn't true or they wouldn't be acting that way. Try asking yourself what it is they feel is bad about themselves that they have to show off to you in this way. Maybe they can see some things in you that make them jealous so they need to compare themselves to you in an unfair way. So have a good think about what are the good things about you. The other girls might have figures you envy but you can bet you have things going for you that they envy even if they wouldn't admit it.

Any yes time will definitely make it better.
There are many famous beautiful women, such as models and actresses, who got teased in their teens and felt inferior to the other girls but have gone on to outshine them.

I don't know what the 'other stuff' is but maybe someone on here can help you with that even if none of the answers about this specific thing have helped yet.

Whatever your problems I'm sure someone will want to try and help and won't judge you harshly so keep asking for whatever help you need.

You are a lovely worthwhile person, remember that.