Ask Me Help Desk - Girlfriend problems

Well here's the situation I am 15 my girlfriend just turned 17 and we are a year and a month together.well now these past days we have had problems like she's saying well am 17 I want to go clubbing partying and all that stuff am like OK go ahead then she's like yea but your young and I love you and that.it's just I don't know what's wrong with her she never seems happy nearly smiles and she's always acting really y.and I don't know if she really loves me cause she really does not do amything to prove it and now she's been acting really why and mean these days and I hate it.idk what to do any more.she used to be really sweet and nice.and o think she does not web care about me like all sh thinks of is herself .example two days ago I was really sick like I could not get out of my bed sick and she just ask like twice how you feeling then babe can I go clubbing with my friends and am like damn.I really don't know what's wrong with her what I should do I really live her but I got to say She's craZy

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Originally Posted by Jdillinger

Well here's the situation I am 15 my gf just turned 17 and we are a year and a month together.well now these past days we have had problems like she's saying well am 17 I want to go clubbing partying and all that stuff am like ok go ahead then she's like yea but your young and I love you and that.it's just idk what's wrong with her she never seems happy nearly smiles and she's always actin really y.and I don't know if she really loves me cause she really does not do amything to prove it and now she's been actin really y and mean these days and I hate it.idk what to do any more.she used to be really sweet and nice.and o think she does not web care about me like all sh thinks of is herself .example two days ago I was really sick like I could not get out of my bed sick and she just ask like twice how u feelin then babe can I go clubbing with my friends n am like damn.I really don't know what's wrong with her what I should do I really live her but I got to say Shes craZy

I meant she is acting really mad and mean to me these days and I really don't know why and I seem like am mad and sad since I treat her awesome and with a lot of love and what I get in return is a bad and mean girlfriend

You're really young to be serious about a girl, but I have a feeling that if I were to say that you two need to date other people that you wouldn't go for it

If your girlfriend has always been truthful with you and you know you can trust her, then why not allow her to go out clubbing? Just because you date each other doesn't mean that you own each other and have to spend every minute with each other. Both of you need to have things that you do without one another. It's healthy to be a little independent. Don't try to control her... that's not good! Give her some space and see what happens.

Thank you but I do give her space it's just don't you think if you were sick you would like your girlfriend to be there for you.I just don't think she cares about me enough and yea I may be young but am pretty mature and I don't really think she loves me cause she's never done anything to prove it and yea it's sort of hard to trust her after what she's done in the past

A girl of 17 years old is too young to be out "clubbing with her friends." She isn't even a legal adult yet. Also, if she doesn't prove her love, doesn't work at your relationship, and you can't trust her because of things she has done in the past, there is no question that your relationship will not work. You do not want to get serious with a girl that can't even show you she loves you anymore... It doesn't matter how nice she was at the start, you should've looked beyond her just being nice and giving you the feeling of being loved. Love is a choice, and she has chosen not to love you. I would suggest you break up, and stop dating until you are a little older and know for sure who the girl is before you start dating her.

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Originally Posted by Jdillinger

Thank you but I do give her space it's just don't you think if you were sick you would like your gf to be there for you.I just don't think she cares about me enough and yea I may be young but am pretty mature and I don't really think she loves me cause she's never done anything to prove it and yea it's sorta hard to trust her after what she's done in the past

I know it's tough, but evidently you aren't getting what you want out of the relationship. You're right, you'd like to have someone who seems concerned when you're sick, but evidently she's not the one. If she doesn't make you feel loved, isn't there for you, and isn't trustworthy, I think you'd be wise to move on and find a girl that is loving and is there for you.
Good luck!

O I meant like those all age clubs. You kNow but thank you both I guess your right maybe I was just blind in love and I did not reliZe how big of a b***h she was till these days.Thanks.