I am engaged to a man, and we are both in our twenties. He went to the doctor to find out he had low testerone. He was prescribed Androderm 5mg patches, and has been taking them for almost a month now.
We haven't had sex in almost 2 years, and I am at my wits end. I DO struggle with depression, and low self esteem, and without being on medication (no insurance), it's gotten much worse because with him refusing to kiss, touch, etc. anything to me, I feel incredibly useless and ugly.
He tries to make up for it with cuddling, being nice to me, gifts, etc. but I tell him over and over again that none of those things will help me, and what I really need is for him to try to initiate contact with me. Recently, I've told him that just kissing would satisfy me. However, he considers kissing sexual, and says he has no desire for that as well. Neither of us want him on viagra, since he's so young, but I really don't know what else to do.
For men with similar problems, how long did it take for testerone levels to come back up and give you back a sex drive?
And if you have low enough testerone to not have ANY drive whatsoever, how is it possible for you to maintain an erection in your sleep? He gets hard frequently in his sleep, so I try to touch him then, but he wakes up and tells me to stop.
Please, any advice/comments would be appreciated. Thanks!
