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  • Nov 25, 2009, 07:25 PM
    Tagyourit
    What do I do if my girlfriend and I are on a break
    Well my girlfriend and I have been going for almost 4 months n recently she told me that she is going threw tough times with her school and family and that she needs a break. She said that she really loves me allot and that she is still going to see me and text me when she can and she says that for now were friends. I don't know what to do I stayed calm and I said yess to the break but what should I do next so that she doesn't lose interest in me?
  • Nov 25, 2009, 07:27 PM
    I wish
    I'm sorry to say, but she already lost interest in you. School and family is just an excuse so that she can let you down easy. The bottom line is that she doesn't want you as her boyfriend anymore.

    Instead of letting her drag you around, you should distance yourself away from her.
  • Nov 25, 2009, 07:40 PM
    Tagyourit

    I guess your right thanks allot
  • Nov 25, 2009, 07:44 PM
    Tagyourit
    Ohh wait I forgot one thing that I left out she told me that it wassnt a break were she would move on from me she told me it was really true that she's been stressing out allot and she needs some time to her self so does that change anything?
  • Nov 25, 2009, 07:47 PM
    I wish
    Asking for a break means that she risks losing you. Furthermore, if your girlfriend is going through a tough time, she would definitely want her boyfriend by her side to support her.

    In your case, she broke the boyfriend/girlfriend commitment, so she risks losing you. If she really cared about you, she wouldn't jepordize the relationship.

    Furthermore, if she doesn't even want you by her side while she's going through the tough times, how are you going to last long term?

    Don't get fooled by her words. Basically, she's leaving the option open to get back with you just in case. Therefore, you've become her backup plan or safety net. Is that what you want to be?
  • Nov 25, 2009, 07:54 PM
    Tagyourit

    No he'll no what should I do
  • Nov 25, 2009, 08:04 PM
    I wish
    Go your separate ways. Don't let her drag you around.

    Go do your own thing. Here's a list of things to do: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...kup-78597.html

    If she ever wanted you back, she will have to make it clear to you. But I caution that even if she comes back to you, who knows when she will want to go on a break again. If you take her back, it will be even easier for her to go on a break again because she knows that you'll be hanging around waiting for her = safety net.
  • Nov 25, 2009, 08:09 PM
    Tagyourit

    I get you all right thanks allot I really apreciate it
  • Nov 25, 2009, 09:08 PM
    talaniman

    When you get dumped, disappear from their life, and do your own thing, and be happy with the things your doing.

    That's the best way.

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