Im confused, I am having problems with my girlfriend. I love her to death but I have been having problem I seem to want to wear women panties I talked to her about it cause we are truthful to each other about everything and she is mad about it and says its gay and that she wants nothing to do with me. I am quiting wearing them for her but I never felt that I was gay for wearing them cause I never was attracted to men sexually. I just liked the taboo I guess of wearing panties that's why I'm asking this question cause she is arguing with me that I'm just in denial and scared to comeout of the closet

From everything I have heard thus far, most cross dressers are not in fact gay. Sure SOME might be... but SOME are in any group you can name.

.many straight men enjoy the feeling of wearing women's clothes and underwear.. infact,its more common then you would imagine.

I would think your girlfriend is a little scared of the unknown,we all are,but if you educate her,perhaps she will see its not so bad.

What I would see as worrying,is the fact that she cannot accept this part of your personality and that you are denying who you are for someone else.

Will it lead to secrets between you? That won't be good.

Maybe there is a compromise here... talk to her again...

Mutual respect, understanding,and communication are the corner stones of any relationship.

Wearing them does not make you gay. Especially if you said you don't like men and aren't attracted to them sexually or emotionally. If that is how you feel and want to wear them that is something she should be comfortable with. I am sure she has in her mind that all crossdressers are gay. Like Red said, Educate her!

Thanks for the help. We do still talk, but at first she didn't want to talk to me at all. We have been looking into it and this is one of the sites that we looked at and that's why I asked the question. She is still thinking about it, but I'm going to do anything to keep this relationship even if it means giving this part of my life up, and honesty is the best thing so I do tell her the truth about it.

Well Good for you George! I am glad things are looking up for you!

If the thought hasn't occurred to you, there are rather interesting undies for men on eBay. Try searching for mens thongs or mens g-strings or mens underwear. In about any fabric imaginable. Tailored for men, and stuff you won't find in any mens department. Far from the boring old tighty whities, or boxers. Perhaps something she finds interesting and less objectionable that you both might find enjoyable.

Just an idea to think about...

Thanks smoothy ill look into that and ask her what she thinks about it. That does sound like a compromising thing that maybe she will agree on

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Originally Posted by bengeorge

She is still thinking about it, but im going to do anything to keep this relationship even if it means giving this part of my life up, and honesty is the best thing so i do tell her the truth about it.

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I'd be careful about being willing to give this up for the sake of the relationship. It has been my experience with cross-dressers that this is not something that will just go away if you don't do it anymore. The urges will be there and will likely eventually lead you to acting on them in private and feeling guilty about it. This is a part of who you are sexually. Take your time introducing this to your partner, but know that you will not be able to give this up for someone, nor should you.

What makes you gay as noted is your desire to have sex with other men. Of the several cross dresers I know, none of them are gay at all, a couple are married and except for their dress up nights you would not know any difference.

Sad your girlfriend was not open minded enough ( or even informed enough) to know the difference

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

What makes you gay as noted is your desire to have sex with other men. Of the several cross dresers I know, none of them are gay at all, a couple are married and except for thier dress up nights you would not know any difference.

Sad your girlfriend was not open minded enough ( or even informed enough) to know the difference

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I think you misread his post (or maybe it was just your choice of words). What I read is that he has NO such gay inclinations... it was her that thought (and assumed) he did.