Hello everyone, well I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 6months now but before we go together we were really close friends for about 4years. Now that we are together everything is wonderful and we have a very honest relationship in which he tells me everything and I do the same. There is one little problem he has a lot of friends that are girls and 4 of them actually like him and he said that he has always had a little crush on them but that was before going out with me but still has them but they don't ever go more than that. So it bothers me that he has crushes on girls but he always tells me that he likes me a lot and that they are just crushes that have always been there and its nothing for me to worry about because he is very into me and likes where our relationship is going. I've told him how I felt about these crushes and he says he can't do much about it because they are just there and that he understands why I am reacting the way I do because he would feel bad also if I had crushes on other guys. I believe he really likes and cares for me and never want to hurt me and I like him a lot but him crushing on other women makes me doubt our relationship. Am I right to feel that way? I don't know what to do anymore?
Thank you for taking the time to read this and appreciate everyone's feedback

I don't think he has crushes on them, he may just find them attractive as both men and women do look at other people of opposite sex when in a relationship. But he's not wise to tell you this. It'll only cause you doubt him.

Don't worry, it's most probably just nothing at all. I have/had a boyfriend who used to tell me that stuf too. He now can't remember it and knows it's foolish to say such things. Maybe he was just playing the game as some guys do early in the relationship, and is maybe testing you to jealousy. Make him stop if so. He's insecure and he'll turn you into it too if he continues.

I think that it's good that he's being honest with you about it. If you guys can be honest with each-other about it then you have no reason to worry. Sure they're probably "cute" But YOU are the one he is with. I'm sure there's guys you think are cute too, but you really care about your guy and wouldn't hurt him. And also, you knew about the crushes before you started dating and he STILL chose you. I'd feel really happy that out of all of those other girls, that I was the one he wanted to be with.
Really.

thank you for some of the advice =)

He can either be honest with you or he can hide it from you. Which do you prefer?

You need to decide:

1) Whether you want to hear these types of truths now and in the future.

2) If you want to hear the truth, then you're going to have to learn to accept the truths.

3) If you can't handle the truths, then your insecurities are going to hurt this relationship more and more.

4) The other choice is that he keeps these types of things secret from you, because he sees the way you react.

5) Your final choice is to break up with him because you can't handle any of it.

Maybe its different now that your best friend is your partner, but really learn how to cope with your own feelings. His honesty is great, but be careful how you react to it.

That's the key, as its normal to have feelings of insecurity and even jealousy, sometimes, but the way you deal with them is what counts.

If you don't over react, or speak, or act impulsively, he will continue to be honest, and the relationship can grow. If you make this a big deal, he will be a lot less honest, and closed to you.

Be honest with him as well, about how you feel, but also acknowledge you will be in control of your feelings and won't over react or let it drive a wedge between you.

Think before you speak, act, or react. Its all on you, and how well you deal with those feelings, that will make or break this relationship.

He did choose you above them didn't he? Don't ever forget that.

Yeah I am careful with the way I react, I don't get overly upset or anything. I usually thank him for his honesty and just tell him I really don't feel that great when he tells me these things but then we just start talking about other things but I then I have it in the back of my mind but I usually get over it. I really want our relationship to grow because he is such a great guy and I love it that we are so close and comfortable with each other and I don't want to lose that. Thank you so much, your advices really helped me calm down about the whole thing.