I am at the end of my rope
I need help with this one. It looks to me like Bi-polar disorder, but I am not qualified.
For a few days out of a week, my wife is happy and "normal". About once a week, she will pick little fights with me over BS like small messes on the counter, work not being completed... essentially whatever is out of its normal state that is within her line of vision will be thrown in my face. In between the nit picking is her storming around the house and leering at me while maintaining almost complete silence... only breaking the silence to further the nitpicking. She will nit pick at me until I either ask her what the problem is or until I lose my cool because I am tired of her being negative over and over and over. If I bring it up, I try to do it subtly and respectfully. When I bring it up, I either get more silence/attitude/nit picking... a leer and a comment like, "nothing is wrong" or she will freak out.
It always ends with us saying things to each other that we do not mean/she leaves and goes to her mother's for a few days/we make up/there are a couple days of normalcy/the cycle starts over again.
The issue is never dealt with. The issue being, her being upset over something... not necessarily me... and she taking her bump in the road out on me both verbally and emotionally.
Is this BPD? If so, what can be done to combat this..
We are so not on the same team... I bust my rump around the house to try to please her, but nothing seems to satisfy her... she only demands more and refuses to accept that she has any faults, while focusing on mine.
Please help