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  • Nov 21, 2009, 01:34 PM
    Gabby2329
    I'm 17 and can't choose? Something's not right.
    So i'm a 16 year old girl and my parents divorced in '05 when my mom took me and my siblings out of my abusive father's home into a safety shelter. We lived there for about three months then moved back to my town with my dad in it. I was about 12/13 at the time and my dad has more money than my mom so of course i wanted to live with him, i was young and niave. so my mom knowing it was what would make me happy let me live with my father, after a few years he moved us out of town, 2 hours away from home. he wont let me visit he treats me horribly, i'm depressed and can only sit in my room and cry. so he let me "visit" my mom this past summer and i thought if i took him to court theyd say well she's almost 17 she can choose but instead the judge was raging that my mother had no right to illegally enroll me in school, when they kept postponing court until school started...So oct 30th i had to up and leave my life, my brothers and sister my mother...just my life. Now i'm nothing but depressed here, legit. it's unhealthy i just want to be home where i belong where i'm happy and healthy. i don't understand why i can't go home i've seen thirteen year olds pick where they want to live. what do i do? please help
  • Nov 21, 2009, 01:56 PM
    rockie100

    Talk to the school counseler. If there is abuse, go to the police. One more year and this would not be a issue for you. Of course I would just leave. But try to do this the right way.
  • Nov 21, 2009, 02:09 PM
    Gabby2329
    I can't wait that long I've also got a boy back home waiting that I don't want to lose. But ugh iits not fair
  • Nov 21, 2009, 02:13 PM
    rockie100

    Two hours is better than four. You could meet in the middle. Do you, or he, have a drivers lic. Something tells me that its more about this boyfriend than the living situation...
  • Nov 23, 2009, 02:27 AM
    TheCompromiser

    It may not be the best option, but you can always take the GED test (its super easy if you pass your classes), and enroll in community college to further your education. That way you don't have to worry about the courts saying your mom can't enroll you. The only downside is you miss out on the high school experience. Though, to tell you the truth, you are transferring in the middle, which means uncomfortable changes etc. and seriously, I wouldve just moved on faster to a JC because of stupid HS drama... Being you're a young lady, you're probably pretty mature, so you can probably handle it..

    Good luck!
  • Nov 23, 2009, 05:32 AM
    stevetcg

    Being a minor, you have no legal standing. YOU do not have any right to choose. IF your mother goes to court and files for a change of custody your OPINION may be considered but ultimately it is up to the judge.

    You need to understand that there is MUCH more involved here than what you want. There is child support and parental rights involved.

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