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  • Oct 19, 2009, 02:57 AM
    annette88
    Why is he texting?
    This seems a simple question-am l reading too much into it? L ended my two and a half yr relationship two weeks ago with immediate no contact but every few days he texts me saying l miss u babe! Why is he doing this?
  • Oct 19, 2009, 03:26 AM
    ROLCAM

    Possibly "revenge" to get under your skin.

    It is up to you to respond or ignore.

    If I may say so, JUST IGNORE.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 03:33 AM
    annette88
    L never even thought of that but you may well be right. I suppose l was being overly romantic and thinking that maybe he was being genuine and realising what he had lost!
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:13 AM
    amicon

    He might be missing you but you ended it and sticking to NC and ignoring him will stop your confusion.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:44 AM
    annette88
    Yes you both are right. The problem is l still love him but we just aren't compatible so even though l never text first when he says that l end up saying l miss him too! L hate this mess
  • Oct 19, 2009, 05:14 AM
    amicon
    Congratulations for having realised that incompatibility is a reason for not staying together.
    Missing someone is normal and you ll get over those feelings with time.
    Don't let him get to you and ignore the texts.
  • Oct 20, 2009, 01:38 AM
    Ithappenstoall

    YOu should also understand that he is hurt and that he still has feelings for you... You will know in your gut what feels right to do, either to discuss the situation with him or not to contact him
  • Oct 20, 2009, 05:25 AM
    Romefalls19

    Ignore it, you are only allowing him to cause you confusion. Just think, if you have this much confusion over one text, what about a conversation?
  • Oct 20, 2009, 01:43 PM
    annette88
    Thank you to everyone for replying-all of it is food for thought. I had many text messages off him yesterday claiming he couldn't live without me.. still loves me etc. I did not respond and so today nothing. It hurts like hell though!
  • Oct 20, 2009, 11:57 PM
    amicon

    With time and by keeping yourself busy you ll get over the hurt.
  • Oct 21, 2009, 01:12 PM
    annette88
    Well just an update. Its been two days and l haven't heard a word so l guess he has given up. I know that not hearing from him will help to heal me but l feel horrendously sad. Has anyone got any suggestions how to stop the what ifs and really start remembering the bad times-l try but my heart over-rules my brain and all l have are the happy ever after scenarios! Thanks again to you all for keeping me strong
  • Oct 21, 2009, 01:17 PM
    I wish

    If you're still confused, it means you're not done healing. Just focus on yourself. Don't over-analyze why he does or doesn't look for you.
  • Oct 21, 2009, 01:29 PM
    Enigma1999
    Hello Annette,

    You are human, it's natural to feel this pain, and it will take time to get over it.

    I gree with I wish, you need to focus on yourself. Stop over analyzeing ever little thing. Stop looking at your phone every second and go do something productive, that will take your mind off this. Staying busy with friends, activities, and such will also help you out.

    Good luck.
  • Oct 21, 2009, 02:01 PM
    Jayjay027

    Go out!
    Go out with your friends, or anyone, and leave your phone at home. You'll be surprised at how invigorating it is to not be checking your phone every 2 minutes.
  • Oct 22, 2009, 04:19 AM
    talaniman

    Read the stickies at the beginning of this forum. A lot of people have been in your situation, and you could benefit from their insights.
  • Oct 22, 2009, 09:37 AM
    annette88
    Jayjay027 you are so right-l do it less now but checking your phone is a real pain and just keeps you in that mindset. Dating and breaking up must have been simpler years ago!
  • Oct 22, 2009, 09:43 AM
    I wish
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by annette88 View Post
    but checking your phone is a real pain and just keeps you in that mindset

    Time to change your number to help you with the healing process.
  • Oct 22, 2009, 09:50 AM
    annette88

    L have thought of that but for some reason the very idea scares me. L know that if l did it would eliminate any chance of hearing from and that would be good for me but lm not ready and yes l know that's dumb!
  • Oct 22, 2009, 10:09 AM
    amicon

    Changing your number as I wish suggests is a great idea.
    It ll help you move forward a lot quicker. Good luck.
  • Oct 22, 2009, 10:37 AM
    annette88

    Thinking about it l realise changing my number is what l must do-for ME! His words are cheap-action speaks louder and as he lived here for over a year he knows where to find me. Thank you all x

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