My Girlfriend and I who have been dating for 1 year are taking a break. She said she wants to stay friends during this time but she needs her space for a few weeks because she told me that I was smothing her... which is true. I would be with her whenever I had a chance too. I started to hangout with my friends less and less, and drop all my hobbies. I became obsessed with her. She told me all of this but I just wanted to be with her... I was dumb annd didn't give her space to breathe. I realize ALL of my screw ups now and I am working on connecting with friends again picking up my old hobbies and stuff, but now all I want is her back as my Girlfriend so I can show her that I've changed and I WILL give her space and not get jealous about other guys because well if she loves me then I can trust her. We both cried as we went are seprate ways about a week ago and started this break. I don't know what to think about this break now... she seems OK while I feel crushed more and more each day, all I want is her back again...

How old are you two please?

Take some more time or yourself. A relationship cannot flourish by one person giving up their entire life for another. Ordinarily there should be a balance. While you think you have changed, I doubt you have changed that much in this short of a time. There is no shame in taking more time and building a healthy and happy life around yourself that you can share with her.

Right now you are desperate and emotionally wrecked and will do anything to get her back, including trying to convince her you have changed. Take more than a week, and rebuild yourself again so she can see, and not just hear from you, how much you really have changed. Sometimes we all just need a break to get a perspective on things. Be patient, as hard as it is, and work through this. Regardless of whether you guys get back together, the goal here is to learn from your mistakes and make a permanent, positive change.

We are both 18... and I talked to a counselor about it and they said that if I showed respect to what she wanted to me change... like hanging out with friends more and being able to be happy without her then she will feel more inclined to come back. Well actually I think she is starting to feel this way because she walked next to me today instead of with her friends infont of us, and she wanted me to walk with her to her car after school, and she asked me for help on the physics HW... is she just being friendly or are these signs that she is missing me?