Hi everyone, this is my first time posting on this site and I am hoping to get some advice or maybe someone who has been in my situation before. Anything that might help this pain that I feel. Here is my story... My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 9 months now. She is 7 yrs older than me, divorced with 2 sons. The first 7 1/2 months of our relationship we were so madly in love, she told me that she should have been with me all of her life and that I was the love of her life. We decided that I should move closer to her which I did. When I moved closer to her and things were good for a while, but then she put on the brakes because she was scared that we were getting really serious and she didn't want me to turn out to be like her ex. She also didn't want to become dependent on me like with her ex. She is in her mid 30s and just starting her career basically. So she told me she was feeling overwhelmed with everything trying to get her career on track, work until 6pm then come home to spend time with kids then have her alone time,her friends time, family time and also try to be with me. We eventually decided to take a break for the month of November. We laid out the ground rules like being faithful to each other, the break would be a month and we also agreed that I wouldn't call/text/email her but she could if she missed me like crazy. The only exception was that I could text her on her Birthday which was a couple days ago. I feel I messed it all up because when I texted her, I wished her Happy Birthday and told her I loved her but when I didn't get the I love you back, I started telling her how much I missed her and wanted to see her. It hurts a lot because I love her so much and wish that we would have what we once did. What hurts even more is the fact that I moved to this new place and don't know anyone (its a quiet town) so I have been really lonely. If anyone has any advice, I would really appreciate it. I am sorry for the long post. Thanks everyone.
Hi, I was kind of hoping for some advice since my friends have given me 50/50 on this situation. My girlfriend and I have been on a break for the month of November because she has been feeling overwhelmed with her career and the fact that she has 2 daughters and no time for herself. We have been going out for about a year now. I wanted to give her some space so she could figure out if she wanted to continue the relationship or if she just couldn't handle it right now. We had set some ground rules before going on break and they were: 1) we would be faithful to each other 2) it would be a month long break and 3) I promised I wouldn't call/text or email her but she could if she truly missed me. I wanted to give her as much space as I could because I love her very much. The only time I would be able to contact her is at the end of the month to set something up. I texted her on Friday saying that I hope she had a nice holiday and that I am looking forward to meeting her and to let me know when she wants to get together. She never responded so Friday night I texted her one more time basically stating the same thing because she told me sometimes she has problems receiving texts. It is now the last day of the month and I still haven't heard from her. I'm pretty much 95% sure that it is over because if she missed me she would have been knocking down the door to see me. But I love her so much it hurts and I still hold out hope until she tells me its over. My question is, do I just wait to see if she texts me or calls to set something up. I guess I am just worried if I take this approach, she will tell me that I didn't try hard enough to get ahold of her or that she texted me but I never received them, kind of playing games with me. The other option that I was thinking was to send ONE last text to her saying that I miss her and I haven't heard from her and I am starting to assume that she doesn't want to be with me anymore. I am confused on how I should proceed. I am sorry for the long question. It has not been an easy month for me.Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you for reading.