Fiancée says she loves me but is no longer in love with me.
We were engaged just over 2 months ago, and have been together for almost 2 years. We have booked a wedding venue, photographer, and a DJ. We have been living together for a year, and just finished completely renovating her condo. We both have places, and I had previously moved a renter into my place. We just purchased a car, and booked a week in England this coming April. As far as I was concerned, things were coming together great. We were set to get married late next summer. There has never been any major problems, no cheating, no lies; as everyone would point out to us, we made a great couple.
When I got home from work last night, she grabbed my hands, and informed me that she doesn't want to continue things, and she's arranged to move into her parents for the time being. I was shocked, and when she asked if I wanted to talk to about it, I couldn't make words come out of my mouth, and walked out. When I came back, she was gone.
I texted asking for a conversation, which she's agreed to tomorrow. She sent me an email later in the night to say that she loves me so very much, but feels like there's something missing... and for that reason, feels I deserve to be with someone better.
I've been trying to collect my thoughts since then, and keep the faith that maybe things will be OK. Does anyone think I'm wrong to remain positive, considering the following:
- her father, who treats me like a son, has tried to reach out to me and offer an ear and support. He was just as shocked and hurt, and doesn't understand her reasons. Says she's devastated at what she's lost. Huh? Isn't that her doing?
- she never took the ring off, at least not in front of me
- when I responded to her email by telling her how hurtful it was to send an email instead of talking, I also said that if this is what she wants, I'd have my stuff moved out of her condo ASAP. Her response was that she doesn't want me to move out right now, that she's staying at her parents for a bit, that I can live at the condo.
Not trying to grasp at straws, but rather just to paint a clearer picture...
Obviously I don't have the answers I need to ease my mind right now, but there are questions that won't go away, and I'm not 100% sure that I should ask all of them. What I feel I should be asking about is:
1) What's changed?
2) Is there anything that can be done on my end to rectify this?
3) Doesn't the fact that she considers me her best friend, and loves me as much as she says she does mean anything to her, or is this coming from somewhere/someone else?
4) Is this a mistake that may be too damaging to ever repair?
5) Did something happen while she was away?
6) Is she prepared to pay the price this might bring? Financially? Personally, as we're from a town where everyone either knows her or I.
Guess I'm just trying to ease my mind by asking if I'm at least sane in what I'm thinking, both from a staying positive perspective, and questions that are in my head.