I am going through a bad break up totally side swiped and I don't know what to do

We are both in mid thirties and we met and we both run and move really quickly in relationships. She was married for 13 years and had a bad 1 and half relationship that ended in march. We talked about getting married etc. not 8 days before she broke up she sent an email telling me about how much she cared loved in love etc etc. she wears her love on her face moods etc. we were going through a 2 week rough spot her with her ex and kids being affected me with starting a company and the stress's with that. She get in this place and just shuts it off and that how she deals with it. I don't know how to deal with it I know I can't get her back now what should I do

You say you can't get her back. If you are so sure, move on with your life. There is no point fretting over it.

If somehow you feel that you still have a chance, that she loves you and will come bac to you, then try talking to her, try to clear things up.

She's got a lot of baggage, it might be better for you to find somemone else.

However, now that she said that she doesn't feel the same way anymore, then respect her wishes and leave her alone.

Avoid any contact, because that will give you false hope and make you over-analyze all the details, which is unhealthy behavior and will prolong the pain and suffering.

It looks like you were her rebound. She probably figured it out and decided to save herself and you a future heart ache. Move on and go find someone else.

Move on (not by sleeping or dating around,) and wait until you're completely healed before finding someone else. The last thing you want is to make someone else a rebound too.