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  • Nov 16, 2009, 12:10 AM
    brittany_lost
    I'm pregnant, with another man and still in love with my ex, what do i do?
    well I am 17 years old. MY x andi broke up about six months ago. I'm currently with another man and we are having a baby. My x is with another girl and has been for a while. I'm absolutely not over my x and I am still very in love with him. He says that he hates me. I don't know I am not in love with my current boy friend! I can't seem to fall in love wit another man because its just not the same, I can't express all my feeling to my boyfriend because there is a part of me that won't let me give up my feelings for my x. what should I do. Should I confront my x and let him know how I feel even though he is with another girl or should I just try to move on? I know I cant! I just don't know what to do. Its eating a hole inside of me! Can he possibaly be over me and in love with that girl or does he still maybe care, if I have held on this long does that mean he did too? Can he really b over me. We barley talk when we run into each other but its getting a little better. A hi here and there a complement or just something random! HELP!:eek:
  • Nov 16, 2009, 03:31 AM
    cassie78
    I am in the similar situation except I have a baby with my ex and I'm still in love with him but he's with another woman... I ask myself the same questions you ask yourself... and as you said its really hard giving up your feeling to your boyfriend..

    My advise is try and forget your Ex for now I know this is not easy but you have to think about your boyfriend and the baby... keep yourself busy mybe with the baby shopping or something anything to keep your ex out of your mind..
    And if you and your Ex are meant to be it will happen..
    Good things don't come easy my dear..
    Just let go don't tell him anything cause if doesn't go your way you will feel even worse!
  • Nov 16, 2009, 06:12 AM
    Cat1864
    brittany_lost, if you haven't already, I suggest you go No Contact with your ex. Make sure that along with stopping phone calls and texts that you delete any Facebook and MySpace pages so you aren't tempted to look them. When you find yourself thinking about him, change the subject. Try to think of something that makes you happy.

    Usually, I would tell you to keep yourself busy mind and body while you let yourself heal from the last relationship before getting into the next one, however, your circumstances are a bit different. I will suggest that you read the stickies at the top of the Relationships Forum. They might still have some tips that could help you.

    You say that you don't love the father of your baby. How does he feel about you? Are you with each other just because of the child?
  • Nov 30, 2009, 02:54 AM
    Sbhaxu

    This is a tough one well I know that nothing we can say that can really help but what I think is you should try and focus on your coming baby and learn to love the father of your baby. I've broke up with my boyfriend and now we are back together because I thought I couldn't make it without him but to tell you it is not nice anymore. So I think it is better for you to try and let it go..
  • Nov 30, 2009, 10:33 AM
    liz28

    Being that you don't your boyfriend it seems like this relationship was just a rebound for you. However, a baby is now on the way.

    You never let go of your past instead you keep holding on to it. The sooner you let go the sooner you will be able to move forward.

    You need to focus on the present and future and decide what is it that you want especially since a baby is on the way. Your only 17 and is having a baby with someone you knew for at least 6 months and when your baby is born it will consume all your energy. So you need to prepared yourself. Are you still in school?

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