My ex husband is constantly harassing me via cell phone or voice mail. I have custody of 2 teenagers and he is always undermining my authority. Only to call me and leave me threatening "lawyer" and "sheriff" will be contacting me messages. I am tired of his verbal and threatening messages for no reason. The children endure daily "interrogating" style conversations from him, mostly concerned for "what I am doing?" They also seem to have to tell him my every move, what we ate, where we are, etc.

Oh, to the previous, I live in Illinois and I need help on what I should do? Please, I have done what my attorney said to. Which was do not answer the calls, the kids are fine, they talk directly to him via cell several, 3/4/5/ten times a day! HELP, please I am starting to become sick over his nasty messages... thanks=)

Ignore him. If you must speak with him, don't entertain his BS. Let him threaten all he wants... talk is cheap and it appears that its all he has. If he had anything, he would talk about sheriff and lawyer, he would do something about it.

Learn to ignore him... until you do, its going to continue.

Also, make sure your kids know that your business is your business and their fathers is their fathers. You respect their privacy, they need to know that you expect them to respect yours.

OK, Steve thanks! I don't need to answer his calls to yell and scream and tell me " what to do." He now says 2moro he is showing up with the sheriff to get the teens (14/15yr old) which by the way... he has chose NOT to take but mayyyyyybe 2 weekends out of the whole last year. This has been going on for almost 3 years now, him harassing me. I divorced him when I found he was having an affair for almost 2 years. We were married for 21 years and I think he is bitter because I gave him the boot and initiated the divorce. Oh well!

Is it safe to assume that you have court ordered custody and he has a set visitation schedule?

If that's true, he isn't taking anyone anywhere except during his visitation because otherwise its kidnapping.