I live in Wisconsin. I got married about 4 months ago and have since been put on probation. My probation officer has now told me that my wife has to move out of the home. I have a toddler that she cares for when I work (not her child) this will cause a significant problem and I don't understand why anyway. Can he do this?

A probation officer requiring your wife to move out of the marital home? Sounds pretty irregular to me. Did he say why he wants her to move out?

I was convicted of statuatory rape (girl was 16-I was 18. It was consensual) My wife is 17. Legally married. Will be 18 on December 18th.

Is your wife the victim of the rape ?

No, sorry for not being clear. The statutory rape was years ago. I served time, got off probation and am back on now because I did not update my address with the sex offender registry. My conviction was not complying with sex offender registry laws. I got probation for the conviction.

Your wife is 17... how old are you?

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Originally Posted by questionstooman

Can he do this?

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Hello man:

I don't know. Lets find out.

There are TWO ways to be on probation... The easy way is if you have a PO who doesn't bust your balls... That requires nothing of you, except to show up when you're supposed to. The OTHER way is bit more difficult, because the second type PO doesn't want you to succeed. He wants to BUST you. It's YOUR job to see that he doesn't.

The first thing to do when you realize that you've got the second type PO, is begin to document EVERYTHING. You do that because sometime in the future, somebody is probably going to review everything that happened and is going to make a decision about YOUR life based on those events... You don't want the PO to lie - not that he would.;).

Write him a certified letter asking him to provide you with a copy of the probation rules and policy manual for the particular office you're dealing with. Ask him to highlight the exact rule that he's using as a basis for his request. Send a copy to his supervisor, and I'd send one to the judge too.

This does two POWERFUL things. It puts the PO on notice that he's going to have to obey the RULES when he's dealing with you, and it levels the playing field when EVERYBODY knows the same rules.. They don't like it when YOU know the rules, because most likely, they themselves, don't.

So, once you do that, I'll bet he'll change his mind.

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