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  • Nov 10, 2009, 01:07 PM
    sela bella
    He says he loves me but likes her what do I do?
    So i just recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me on the first week we started dating and it wasnt just a random girl i guess they were talking before I made my mind up between him and another guy. I forgave him and gave him another chance. He says he loves me that he doesnt want to break up but he says he likes the other girl a lot too. :( He says hes confused. Then just recently the other girl tried to commit suicide over him and he says he can't deal with a girlfriend who needs help so he just doesnt know what to do because he says if he leaves me and goes with her and sometime in the road they break up she might end up doing something stupid again and he says he just can't deal with that. He gives me all these signs that he "loves" me but then he says he likes the other girl. i asked him if he was really going to leave the girl he loves over the girl he likes and he said he just doesnt know and that he's confused and that he never knows what will happen. I told him he might regret leaving me if he ever does and hes going to think back and say "damn that girl really did love me" PLEASE HELP!! WHAT DO I DO? should i stay with him until he makes up his mind or give it a break and risk him leaving me???
  • Nov 10, 2009, 01:11 PM
    superteen00

    THIS GUY IS A LOSER.
    Are you kidding me with this? ARE YOU FREAKIN SERIOUS
    He tells you that he has feelings for someone else and you are just going to sit there and stay in a relationship like that?
    Wow you obviously have NO back bone.

    Ditch the loser and find someone who is worthy of your time, not some douche like that.
  • Nov 10, 2009, 06:01 PM
    jaime90

    Firstly, you shouldn't be ticked off at his second girlfriend (you know, the one he cheated on you with?) Because neither of you deserve a guy that is this lousy. You need to realize that he doesn't love you- no matter how much you may "feel" loved, he doesn't really love you. Start thinking with your head, not with your feelings. Love is commitment. This guy couldn't be committed for one week. Don't try to keep him, and don't sound needy by nagging him and telling him that he will regret leaving you. He made his bed, let him lie in it with a girl that is so attatched she literally can't live without him.

    If you're looking for a romantic, respectfull, serious relationship with a guy- you won't find it in someone like this. If you are dating for life, and not just for your own satisfaction or for the sake of messing around- then you need to look at what a future with this guy would entail: In a marriage you can't just cheat and break up. Cheating in marriage is called adultery, and a break up is called divorce. Throw a couple kids and there and see what you end up with. Not exactly the romantic man you dreamed of spending your life with, and certainly not what you deserve. Leave this guy. He isn't worth it. And if you can, try to make his other girlfriend realize this too, so that she doesn't end up in the same situation- because NOBODY deserves a boyfriend like this- not even her.
  • Dec 18, 2010, 08:31 AM
    boredwithlife
    Hey babe I am going through the same thingmy boyfriend says he likes a lot of other girls but loves me why don't you try making him feel the way he makes you feel. Ask him how he would feel if you were in the same situation and left him for the other guy. If after that talk he still likes the other girl then he is a complete douchebag but if he understands then he truly deserves you ;)
  • Dec 30, 2011, 11:13 PM
    unknownhomie24
    Leave him , things WILL get worse ; love is love but love should be fair but next thing you know that homeboy will be doing the whole neighborhood let the girl that " will " commit suicide deal with him
    Clearly if he is too busy dealing with a girl that he cheated with on your first week if you are blind ; the whole relationship was a mistake

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