Hi,

My boyfriend and I havin't been dating not that long and when we weren't official he went to the strip club with his good friend. It bothered me but since we weren't even dating at that point I couldn't say anything about it and had to let him go without him knowing it bothered me. Now he hasn't gone since but when he's birthday comes and he wants to go with his buddy's is it right for me not wanting him to go? I mean why go see naked girls that you half to pay to get a dance when your girl at home can do that for you for free and it actually means something because it's your partner?

Well, he is young, he looks at other girls, he fantasizes about other girls and he will masturbate over them too - this won't change either. It is in their genes... that's why they say "boys will be boys". I don't care if it's this guy or the next... all men have the same cosmetic make up in this "particular" sense (whatever type of relationship). Some men are great, others are moderate and some are completely driven by sex.

It sounds like you nabbed a good guy and ALL guys go to the strippers at least ONCE or TWICE (if not more) to the strippers and all guys have purchased a dirty magazine or movie at least ONCE or TWICE (if not have an entire collection of it) in their lifetime.

If you start something about it... he won't tell you... it is better to keep the lines of communication open (this way he can remain honest to you and you could learn to trust him the way you should). The sooner you come to terms with the fact that you HAVE to accept it - the sooner you are to having a happy and lasting relationship. P.S. after marriage and kids both you and your partner will really learn to enjoy the occasional trash together or apart. Be at home when he comes back from the strippers - it can be really fun! :D Keep sex fun and relaxed!! Don't burden him with your emotional self - guys don't get that :confused:.

If your needs are being met, he treats you with respect, he treats you nice and special, he has not cheated on you in the past and is a great guy who uses good judgment - cut him some slack and don't control that aspect of his life.

Don't say anything... think happy thoughts and how much he loves you because he does. Just because he is going to the strippers does not mean he goes there ALL THE TIME and he comes home to you and makes love to you not the stripper. Besides, subconsciously - he doesn't respect a stripper... sure she is hot and all about sex but she does it for money... your are much more desirable! Don't be insecure sweetie.

Relax and have fun~;)

Hi,
Not all guys are into strip clubs. I know most guys like porn, though not all... I know one guy who isn't into porn at all. He grew up hearing his dad tell him it was weird to get all worked up over a "picture" of a woman.

Anyway, if you have strong feelings about this, I would tell him. I have heard that at some clubs, the girls let the guys touch them and let guys do unspeakable things to them. If he's going to be with a group of guys celebrating and drinking... they might convince him to do others things. A lot of guys get lap dances. This completely naked woman is sitting directly on the guy's lap (area) while their boobs are in the guy's face and the guy is touching them. If this feels wrong to you, you need to have a talk with him. I personally would not be comfortable with this.

Just for fun, hire a male stripper to come to your house. Make sure he's wearing a too-small, see-through thong and his "business" hangin' out the sides. Make sure he is adequately oiled up. Have him dance in your face as you stuff dollar bills in his "you-know-where" (oh, and be sure you've invited your guy over for the show)... See how he likes it.

You can't forbid him to go. But if it bothers you, then you should definitely let him know, see how he responds and go from there. Communication is key.