Just broke up with my girlfriend ! Is there a 2nd chance ?
Hi guys !
I had been dating this girl for 2 years and 4 months. She just officially broke up with me on last Friday (Oct- 30th). Before breaking up with me, on Wednesday ( Oct - 28th) she said: " i will really live the life without you and i thinnk i will really know what i really want, if i really love you... i will go back to u , cause now i dun really know my feeling..... ". After saying that I was so dumb by asking her to come back to me, plea her, begging her... then she ignored my phone for completely 1 day. Then the next day, I messaged her and asked can we meet up tonight in front of her apt, she said yes , but actually it was a lie to make me feel better. I kept waiting unitl 2 am, and I couldn't wait anymore so I kept on calling her. She got pissed and said she wants a break up. I was so shocked, kept on crying and panic, then I ran to her house, called her and she said she promise that she will see me tomorrow to talk about our relationship, and told me to leave right away. After I left, I went back home , kept on crying and my friends were around with me to make me feel better. The nextday, I felt better a bit and accepted the broke up. I went to her house, gave her back the stuff, huged her, kissed her, held her hands, she was crying a lot... She said she doesn't know what does she really wants. After that, she got changed and I walked wit her to school, she kept on crying... we were holding hands, walking. Later on after the break up ,I found out the what did I do wrong is : I didn't give her space at all, jealous when she hanged out with guys friends, checked her phone sometime, stay with her all the time, when ever she needed me I'm always there, I kinda available for her all the time ...... I did the NC rule for like almost a week now, she haven't call me yet. Today, I talked with her sister, heR sister told me that she wants to know more friends, then I told her sister that I can change AND I can giver her some space if we come back. But then my gf's sister said : " She doesn't want you to change for her, she want YOU ARE YOU". My girlfriend is kind of independence girl, but she also really need me to be with her, so it's confused me sometime.
MY girlfriend still have a strong feeling for me, because today her sister told me that she doing OK after the first days of the break up but she doesn't seem happy until now, she just seem OK. Moreover, wherever my girlfriend goes with her sister, she told her sister that she have lots of memories with me at this, and that place where we used to hang out together.
So what do you guys think ? NC actually will work in my case or not? Will my GF easy to move on and adapt the new life without me ? Will she easy to forget me ? I'm sorry but this is my First LOVE and I still have a REALLY STRONG LOVE FOR HER. I'M SO REGRET BUT IT'S Kind of TOO LATE. YEAH! DO U GUYS THINK I'M DEPENDING ON HER TOO MUCH ? AND If I can change my life style to a confidence and better guy, will she come back to me ? May be my hope is just too over, I really don't know!!
P/S she and I are Junior in College right now, we both 21 :(!!