I asked 2 of my friends to be bridesmaids 2 years ago when I got engaged. I haven't heard from them more than twice each in the last 2 years time. (We used to talk weekly, and hang out often). One of them got married, and I did get invited, but haven't spoken to her outside of that. The other moved away and had a baby,which I found out through the grapevine, not from her. I attempted calling just a few times, but got frustrated as time went on without responses, and their phone numbers changed without notice. I have decided I would like to have all of my female cousins be bridesmaids instead. Is it incredibly wrong to de-bridesmaid the two others? There is a good chance they wouldn't even know about it until the time they'd expect a wedding invite.