Well I've moved on from my ex boyfriend so but any hoo I'm having a little problem at my school well like almost every guy likes me in my grade! The boys flirt with me they try to touch me everywhere. And even a girl likes me and I don't know she says she's bisexual. But Im getting tired of the boys they hit on me everyday my guy friends flirt with me and I'm sick of it! The girls they really get on my nerves! I've tried telling them to stop but they keep on! I know its probably harassment! I have a boyfriend and I'm not that type of girl who flirts and cheats! But my boyfriend is getting mad at me! He should be mad at them! So what I'm trying to ask please in the nicest way HOW DO I GET THESE THINGS AWAY FROM ME!! Ex-speacialy the girl cause I'm not like that. I don't date girls! But please give me some advice please! And I know to go to the principal and stuff but they always be telling me oh I was just playing! You get me?

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And I know to go to the principal and stuff but they always be telling me oh I was just playing! You get me?

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Well, if your principal has any guts at all, (s)he won't buy the old "I was just playing" excuse. You ask how "in the nicest way" you can get this to stop? The answer is, you can't ; not in a nice manner, that is. Nothing personal, but teenagers don't understand "nice." If they did, they wouldn't be behaving in this manner to begin with ; or at least they would have stopped the minute they realized you don't like it. You're going to have to get nasty, and that means going to the principal and possibly the authorities (depending on your principal's response or lack thereof.) If the principal doesn't respond in an assertive manner, then you and your parents will have to take legal action. Does your boyfriend truly understand what's going on? Is he the protective type? Not that I would want to advocate instigating anything but if he's a little bigger and stronger than the guys who are hassling you, maybe he can intimidate them into stopping.

You probably need to be more assertive.

When someone is trying to touch you stop, hold out your hand with your palm up - in a sort of 'stop' gesture - and say, "please don't do that again.". Don't get into an argument, just be absolutely brief and walk away without engaging with them.

If the girl hits on you say to her - "Please leave me alone, I'm not interested". Again, don't discuss this with her, just make your point and keep walking.

If you don't want people's attention - don't look at them or talk to them and don't hang around where they are. If they flirt - don't flirt back.

Well my boyfriend is athletic but I'm way taller than him! But I understand I do need to stand up and say no! Have anymore advice?

Well, you're in high school. Boys are IMMATURE! Well, they never really do grow up, but, they are very immature at that age. First, for the boyfriend. If he is getting mad at you and he sees that you are not leading these guys on in any which way, tell him how you feel and that its not right for him to be mad. If he can't take it, clearly he is the wrong guy for you! Secondly, the girl? Ew, be like hi, I'm not a lesbian thanks and walk away! Thirdly, ignore the guys. Don't let them touch you! Be a boss and stand up for yourselF walk the halls like you own the place and use the fact that the guys like you to your advantage!

LaurenLo24 thanks well today they calmed down because I pushed them off and told them no! As for the girl I'm working on that I mean she is in every class with me! I told my mom and dad and they are going to the principal. But yeah my dad was furious and upset. My mom she was calm but mad. Anyway as for my boyfriend I talked to him and we hugged and he understood where I was coming but I told to never act that way again. And after that we just talked and talked. But thanks for the advice!

Next time just act like your really serious about going to the principal and if they do it again then really go