Hi every one. To sum it all up my girl and I are on a so call break. Its been two weeks to be exact. Our relationship started two and a half months ago. We have been after each other for three years and finally we got together. Everything was so great until I started to be stupid and question certain things. She broke up with her ex because they always argued. I used to tell her he was an idiot and that's not the way to go. But low and behold the past couple of weeks I started my arguing on little stupid things. I guess It got to her and she was really mad at me for the last time and she said she needed a break. Didn't agree at first but had to do it her way. She came over the following week and slept over and told me that she has gone from boyfriend to boyfriend without any break. She finally went to work the next day, we had launch and she went back to work. Then she called me before she went to bed like normal. I was the happiest man alive. But the next day there was no call. So I left her a text mess. She sent me back a text saying she was never ready for this relationship and she is still not. What does this mean. And she has not called me. I sent her a letter that was nice and explained that everything was my fault and I take full responsibility. And let her know that I still miss her and hope someday she will miss me. Still have not heard from her. What does this mean and what can I do!!

First off may I ask your age?

Secondly, I would say to let it cool off and not be over eager or try to push anything on to her. If she is not ready or says she is not ready then she means it. Just send her a text saying you understand everything and you hope to remain friends and if anything happens then it happens. If not then you still have friendship.

I am 37 Adam. Thanks for the advice.Its still so hard you Know

I understand. The reason I asked your age is because a lot of times we get people around the age of 15 and they think the world is coming to an end.

I wish you the best. Sometimes the best thing to do is move forward and not look back or you will bury yourself in this make believe world of "what ifs" You don't want to be there. Just give her time and try to be friends. She will surely come around.

It's OK, just give her the space she asks for. Don't worry, if was meant to be, she'll come back, if not it won't. Just move on, try new things, meet new people. Trying to win her back doesn't help her, or you. And it's unheathy to chase people.

Oh, and by the way, when she says that, it doesn't mean you were not good enough! I have been in her spot before with an ex of mine. I cared about him, and yet felt like because I hadn't had a break from guys in so long. So I did, and he moved on. So did I... Don't let her hold you back. ^_^

Give her the space, she will contact you if she wants a relationship with you, otherwise it would be wise to move on.

Don't EVER initiate contact with her at this point. Think about it. If you don't want someone at the moment but that person keeps sending you messages, wouldn't it annoy or bother you?

Don't make the same mistakes as many people do. Don't contact her. You need to give her her space or else she will get annoyed. And at the same time, she will begin to miss you and contact you on her own. Even if it's to the point that she doesn't think about you, trust me, she will. Memory may be a gift but it's also a curse that will make her rethink about you.

Too much too soon! She's right - she's gone from one BF to another BF without a break and then you started acting like an idiot. At that point I think you sealed your own fate.

Listen to what she's telling you. She wants space and time, not someone that texts her, harangues her, apologizes to her or argues with her.

You were flirting with her while she was still with her Ex, and then you expected her to jump straight into a relationship with you. Of course she wasn't ready - you hardly gave her time to breathe and she clearly didn't know better.

Time to get on with life and put this down to experience - rebound relationships rarely work.

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She sent me back a text saying she was never ready for this relationship and she is still not. What does this mean. And she has not called me. I sent her a letter that was nice and explained that everything was my fault and I take full responsibility. And let her know that I still miss her and hope someday she will miss me. Still have not heard from her. What does this mean and what can I do!!

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It means to leave her alone, and try someone else, she is no longer interested.