There is this guy at work, I like him a lot, he is charming, smart and funny. But I don't know if he likes me. He winks at me, teases me. Every time I have my nails done, he would hold my hands and look at them, he always helps me, he said he cares about me, he makes me feel like he is interested, but I am also afraid of he is just flirting, I can't stop thinking about him, does he like me? Please give some advise!!

I would first see if he is already involved with someone. He might be thinking a work setting isn't the best place to start dating. Are you compatible in age and lifestyle? Take your time, get to know him better. You could ask him questions about his life outside of work.

Presuming that you reciprocate and aren't discouraging him, I would bet there is a very good chance that he is interested.

If you know that he is not married, or otherwise involved with someone else, why not push the envelope a little, and ask him if he's on Facebook, or would he mind if you sent him a few email jokes. Something like that, but focus on outside the work environment.

A friend of mine recently solved a similar dilema. She emailed him a short, friendly email saying her g/f had dialed out of a concert coming up on the weekend. If he's interested in going, let her know. He did, and the rest is history.

You have absolutely nothing to lose by adding him to your email, or Facebook, and it may just turn out very well for you, especially if he's a bit unsure how you feel.

Why don't you ask him? I wouldn't get too wrapped up in this guy in case he says he's not interested. You don't want to throw all of your emotions into the mix to be stepped on if this guy says no. But you may be pleasently surprised. So, just ask him striaght up.

Thank you much for the advises. He is 5 year older than me. I've never asked a guy out before and I am so afraid of that he would say no and we have to work together everyday. How can I just hint him that I am interested without asking directly?

OK here we go. Communication is key in general society as well sa any relationship. You can't ever find out something unless you dig a little.

I am not saying walk up to him and just blurt out "hey are you single and interested in me?". There are always ways to bring up topics that will eventually get to the point you are trying to make.

Beings you guys work together that is a perfect opportunity right there, starting small talk usually can lead to a converstation about anything you want. The trick is to start the small talk. Somewhere into the conversation bring up his outside life. Because trust me the way people are at work can greatly vary from the way they act at home.

I would advise that you just talk to him, bring up questions like "so what does life consist of for you outside work?" etc...

By the actions you have posted I would bet he is interested.

Good Luck

Rick

You could ask him if he has seen that new movie that just came out. Or if he has tried that new restaurant that just opened. You could drop a hint like... Ive just been craving Chinese food, do you like Chinese? Or... I kind of have been wanting to go to the zoo, haven't been there in years... How about you?

Just start a open dialog with him. Take your time. Is there something you know he's interested in? Find some fun facts about that subject and share them. Could be cars, art, current avents. Let him in on your instrests. A collection you have, or your favorite musical group.
Have fun! Hope this helps:)

There are so many signals that make me think he is interested. Today he was leaving early from work and I asked him any plans after work, he said he was going to a bar and ask me if I wanted t go with him. I said sure, but that is it. He didn't really insist. It made me think he was joking again. He just keeps me wondering and he has been successful. I just can't stop thinking about him.

I feel he is, BUT he sounds somewhat that he could be a player! Find out if he is seeing someone, or has a GF. Facebook creep! Also, if he does and he continues to lead you on, ignore him or play the homewrecker card! Hehe. But if you really want to find out, ignore him for a few days. Don't go our of your way to be mean to him, but just don't give him as much attention as you usually do!

I have the same promlem but yours is a little different I think that you should ask him what he thinks of you if he sais he doesn't like you well a least it was worth a try

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I feel he is, BUT he sounds somewhat that he could be a player! Find out if he is seeing someone, or has a GF. Facebook creep! Also, if he does and he continues to lead you on, ignore him or play the homewrecker card! Hehe. But if you really want to find out, ignore him for a few days. Don't go our of your way to be mean to him, but just don't give him as much attention as you usually do!

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How do I play home wracker card!

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I feel he is, BUT he sounds somewhat that he could be a player! Find out if he is seeing someone, or has a GF. Facebook creep! Also, if he does and he continues to lead you on, ignore him or play the homewrecker card! Hehe. But if you really want to find out, ignore him for a few days. Don't go our of your way to be mean to him, but just don't give him as much attention as you usually do!

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How to play homewrecker card?

Looking at it another way, if he was serious about you going with him to a bar after work, when you left him hangin', he doesn't know if you are interested.

Maybe if an opportunity comes up again, just say, "Well, I have a few stops to make first, but where are you going, and I'll meet you there." That way, you are at least acknowledging him, and, if you are uncomfortable going, you can always say that you ended up at your mother's place longer than you expected, and just went home.

I presume you are over 21, and he's around 26? Or is there a bigger age gap there.

Try to just think that when opportunity knocks, if you don't answer the door, it may never knock again. ;)

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Looking at it another way, if he was serious about you going with him to a bar after work, when you left him hangin', he doesn't know if you are interested.

Maybe if an opportunity comes up again, just say, "Well, I have a few stops to make first, but where are you going, and I'll meet you there." That way, you are at least acknowledging him, and, if you are uncomfortable going, you can always say that you ended up at your mother's place longer than you expected, and just went home.

I presume you are over 21, and he's around 26? Or is there a bigger age gap there.

Try to just think that when opportunity knocks, if you don't answer the door, it may never knock again. ;)

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Thank you, that is very true. I did not follow him along. He is 5 years older than me. It is not like I have never dated before, the work place makes it harder, normal guys at bars, if I was interested and they were not, I didn't have to see them ever again, no big deal, but him, I have to see him everyday, I want to be sure before making a move.