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  • Nov 1, 2009, 11:53 PM
    quick_boy
    Girlfriend trouble
    My girlfriend broke up with me couple of weeks ago , I tried fighting for her but it didn't work . So I cut ties with her and haven't talked to her, 2 day thou she emails me and asks me how I'm doing and what did I do in the weekend? I replied but only really short. What do I do? I love her 2 bits
  • Nov 2, 2009, 12:02 AM
    amicon
    You stay NC -which means no contact whatsoever. No replies to emails texts etc. Read the stickies at the top of th relationship page-lots of good advice there.
  • Nov 2, 2009, 02:49 AM
    quick_boy
    Yea its hard though I really like her,
  • Nov 2, 2009, 03:04 AM
    amicon
    It is hard but believe it does get better once you ve struggled through the first weeks. Keep as busy as you can see family and friends-do the things that make you feel good.
    Physical activities also help so go to the gym or do any sports that you like.
    One day at the time.
  • Nov 2, 2009, 03:19 AM
    quick_boy
    Do u reken theeres a chance of getting back with her?
  • Nov 2, 2009, 03:27 AM
    amicon
    I can't tell you that because no one knows that. I understand you re hurting and Im sorry for your pain.
  • Nov 2, 2009, 06:04 AM
    I wish
    You need to be patient with yourself. Give yourself more time to heal. There's no magic potion for instant results, only time.

    As for getting her back, you shouldn't even be thinking about that at this point. Focus on healing. Once you've healed, you will be in a better position to think about what the next step is.
  • Nov 2, 2009, 07:29 AM
    talaniman

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...lk-303157.html

    Hate to be the bad guy and delete your posts for chat/text.

    You really will have a hard time until you adjust to this break up. Read the stickies at the beginning of this post.

    There is a link in my signature.
  • Nov 2, 2009, 08:56 AM
    Romefalls19

    You need to stick with NC, as it is the best way to get better and let your heart heal. Even little chat can provide false hope to you and that's the worst thing for you right now.
  • Nov 3, 2009, 09:00 PM
    quick_boy

    I said goobye to her 2 day. Then she emails and says she not going 2 say goobye to me
  • Nov 4, 2009, 03:56 AM
    amicon

    Then you leave it at that-you said goodbye-dont reply to her email.
  • Nov 9, 2009, 04:35 PM
    quick_boy

    My ex has now hooked up with this guy and has pictures on Facebook 2 prove it to me? What do I do? I really wnt her back I text her the other day said how I kared so much for her and I adorded her and that I made time and effort for the relationship but she cldnt. She never text back?
  • Nov 9, 2009, 04:52 PM
    supermannnnnn

    Quick_boy.

    Every single time you contact her, be it through calls, emails, Facebook, myspace, text, fax, whatever, you RESET EVERYTHING.

    All the hurt you already went through, you will go through again because you spoke with her.

    Delete her off your FACEBOOK so you won't see that other guy!

    Picture to yourself that she is already having sex with that other guy if it helps you forget about her.

    She's GONE MAN! She has pictures to prove it on Facebook!

    She's GONE! Accept it like a man! You were man enough to get together with her, now be man enough to walk away and never look back.

    That's what MEN DO.

    Sorry for sounding harsh and I know this is not what you want to hear. But I'm telling you the truth.

    You need to move on and NEVER EVER contact her again.

    Remember this though. If you listen to us and apply NC, one day she might call you. But you must NOT fall for that trap and pick up the phone. If you do, you messed up again.

    She will probably call you for emotional support. If you provide that in HER TERMS, when She's NEEDS IT, you will now be her instrument.

    She will pull you out and PLAY WITH YOU WHENEVER SHE WANTS! Then she will DUMP you and put you back WHENEVER SHE WANTS.

    She will have took your manhood away. PLease don't let that happen.

    *** You need to better yourself as a MAN. Learn new skills, WORKOUT, learn to dance, join a group, go out with friends, WORKOUT some more, buy new clothes... Do anything to occupy your time and forget about her. TRUST ME.. This part is very important.

    After all this, you will have done 2 things.

    1) bettered yourself as a man. You will stand taller and with more confidence. Females see that in an instant! You will attract more females! You will feel good about yourself. You will project a POSITIVE , confident aura.

    2) You will have turn the tables on your (EX). She will question what she lost... ( this is only if she wants you back ) ( she might not care and move on for good )

    Either way, you win.
  • Nov 9, 2009, 05:06 PM
    quick_boy

    Cheers thanks man , just really hard aye . She was like a soul mate
  • Nov 9, 2009, 05:08 PM
    supermannnnnn

    Good Luck Quick_Boy...

    Time will heal it my man.

    And if you follow the above, you'll come out on top.
  • Nov 9, 2009, 05:48 PM
    jamiepie

    Sounds to me like she is keeping you on the back burner. She doesn't want to completely write you off in case someone else doesn't come along. If you don't have contact with her it will drive her insane. Especially if she hears that your doing good and moving on. She wants you to want her, every girl just about loves the feeling of knowing that you can have someone anytime you want them. So if you make her think different than there is a good chance she will wake up and see what she is missing out on. Good luck to you

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