I think I'm in love with this girl... problem is, she has a boyfriend. We dated about two months ago, but we broke up... until' she got together with him, we just remained good friends. I told her, tonight, that I was planning on asking her to get back together with me, before he asked. I also asked if they break up, would she be willing to try it again with me. She said that she's not sure, because she's with him right now. Before they got together, it seemed like she liked me again. I want to know how to get her to think that way about me... without doing anything underhanded. I just want her to start liking me over her boyfriend. Please help-- I'm feeling really depressed!!

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She said that she's not sure, because she's with him right now

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This is girl talk for "I really like the guy I'm with and you don't have a chance".

Walk away, she's with someone and she's obviously not that into you, otherwise the new guy would be history.

There's nothing you can do to make someone fall for you, they either do or they don't, unless you're 13, then it sometimes works, for a week.

Really, move on.

↑ pretty much what she said. & it sucks.. I know. There's things in life we have no control over and other peoples emotions towards us are one of them. (unless you're good @ manipulating)but that never ends well 0_o

Here's what you do you watch her boyfriend try to be a little like him and stuff then you hang out with her see if she likes the new you then she'll relize that you are a lot like her boyfriend then she might like you but remember keep a little bit of yourself so you aren't a totally different person if that doesn't work just tell her how you really feel if she doesn't want to be with a nice guy like you then she's crazy you can definitely find some other girl with that personality you hot hot thing
Good luck
And answer my question if you want to help me out a little with some smarts
Thanks

That's stoooooooopid! Don't change yourself for someone else. If she doesn't love you for everything you are (good or bad) she's not worth it! And it's not meant to be. You'll never be happy, and if you let being with some girl make you "happy" you have deeper issues to work on. Get a hobbie...

Why can't you just accept she has a boyfriend and leave her alone. You can't be friends because you are desperate to have more than she is willing to give, so now your stuck on one female who doesn't want you.

Come on guy, man up, and move on. You never tell a woman, come to me when your done with this guy. That's as immature as it gets.

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Originally Posted by InLove23

I think I'm in love with this girl... problem is, she has a boyfriend. We dated about two months ago, but we broke up... until' she got together with him, we just remained good friends. I told her, tonight, that I was planning on asking her to get back together with me, before he asked. I also asked if they break up, would she be willing to try it again with me. She said that she's not sure, because she's with him right now. Before they got together, it seemed like she liked me again. I want to know how to get her to think that way about me... without doing anything underhanded. I just want her to start liking me over her boyfriend. Please help-- I'm feeling really depressed!!!

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How would YOU like it if someone was trying to move in on YOUR girlfriend?

You said you don't want to do anything "underhanded", well, you already have by telling her what you did.

Back off, find someone else that doesn't have a boyfriend. The world is full of them.

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Originally Posted by hamsterlovera

here's what you do you watch her boyfriend try to be a little like him and stuff then you hang out with her see if she likes the new you then she'll relize that you are a lot like her boyfriend then she might like you but remember keep a little bit of yourself so you aren't a totally different person if that doesnt work just tell her how you really feel if she doesnt want to be with a nice guy like you then she's crazy you can definately find some other girl with that personality you hot hot thing
good luck
and answer my question if you want to help me out a little with some smarts
thanx

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Maybe this works in the hamster world, but not with NORMAL human beings.

The only man you should try to be like, is JC.

What if this guy is a jerk? Have you given any thought to this mission you have suggested?

This is a no hope situation. Stop seeing this girl full stop. Have some respect for peoples' declaration that they are in a relationship or marriage. If you respect this you will find that you will make a lot less mistakes in your life. Don't GET INVOLVED WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP. IT HURTS YIU AND IT HURTS OTHERS, NO MATTER HOW GOOD IT FEELS AT THE TIME. Learn from this advice rather than making a real-life mistake. I am sure others will second this advice?

Bottom line is... Find someone else that is not attached. Break off ALL contact with this girl and move on.

I found a big problem with your question. You say, "I THINK I'm in love..." Unless you KNOW for sure that you are in love with this girl, it was a bad idea to date her in the first place. Now she's with another guy and you need to accept that. It's a little immature for you to be asking her if her and her boyfriend will be breaking up anytime soon. You need to stop trying to get between these two. This girl is doing a good job by saying to you that she's now taken- she's trying to be committed to her current boyfriend. Leave them alone and move on.

You sound immature and lacking in people skills.

Back off. She's with someone else.

So now you think you like her again and you can't get your own way.

Well, you had your chance and you lost it. Life's like that.