My girlfriend of 4 months told me I'm pushing her away by not trusting her. I thought nothing of it. She became distant and began going out more frequently.Everytime she went out I would call her like 5 times to see what she was doing. I felt that I was always being second in the relationship when I was putting her first. I felt like she didn't love me same or care. So I met up with her and broke up with her. After I told her and we departed I said can you meet me I want to talk again. I told her I wanted to get back together. She didn't know if she wanted me back. She said I have to think about things and I'm confused and wanted space. I said OK that's fine. That night she txted me but it was very short. The next night she called. We talked and she said she still doesn't know. I said I would change and I deserve another shot. She said she wanted to see me on Friday to help me with my math hw that she said she would. She said she doesn't miss me and might want to be single. What do I do. Please help I want her back I love her but I feel that she doesn't love me the same. Is it good or bad that she contacts me. I haven't contacted her at all.

Its time to move on buddy. If she wanted you back she would have told you that already. She says she is confused because she doesn't know how to break it to you and hope as time goes by you two will start to drift away. Continue on the path of NC.

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Its time to move on buddy. If she wanted you back she would have told you that already. She says she is confused because she doesnt know how to break it to you and hope as time goes by you two will start to drift away. Continue on the path of NC.

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I think your totally right. She said she wants a break and will tell me when she starts missing me. But why is she calling me and txting me.. its only been to days sincethe break and I haven't seeing her in a week.

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i think your totally right. she said she wants a break and will tell me when she starts missing me. But why is she calling me and txting me..its only been to days sincethe break and i havent seein her in a week.

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There could be many reasons. Perhaps she feels guilty for what you have done, or she wants you to remain in her life as a friend or friend with benefits so you can listen to her which is totally unfair to do to someone you have broken up with. Don't ever talk to her anymore and move on with your life unless she comes begging you than think about it. Don't count on it though, and don't let her waste any more of your time.

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There could be many reasons. Perhaps she feels guilty for what you have done, or she wants you to remain in her life as a friend or friend with benefits so you can listen to her which is totally unfair to do to someone you have broken up with. Dont ever talk to her anymore and move on with your life unless she comes begging you than think about it. Dont count on it though, and dont let her waste any more of your time.

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Thanks for the feedback appreciate it.. but do you think I should see her on Friday to help me study. Is there anway I can get her back.. maybe by saying your taking to long with your decision and I break up with her and if she really cares shell come back. Or wait for her decision... I think I can get her back if I play my cards right.. help

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thanks for the feedback appreciate it..but do you think i should see her on friday to help me study. Is there anway I can get her back.. maybe by saying your taking to long with your decision and i break up with her and if she really cares shell come back. or wait for her decision...i think i can get her back if i play my cards right..help

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No there is no way of getting a girl back. The only thing you can do is let her know how you feel and she will come back if she wants to. Trust me man I have tried everything in the book, and all I was left was a deeper scar than it was supposed to be. No you should not see her on Friday, you should never see her again. Let her go and find happiness somewhere else.

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No there is no way of getting a girl back. The only thing you can do is let her know how you feel and she will come back if she wants to. Trust me man i have tried everything in the book, and all i was left was a deeper scar than it was supposed to be. No you should not see her on friday, you should never see her again. Let her go and find happiness somewhere else.

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But she said she just wants a break.and space to feel things out .she didn't fully break up with me at least not yet.

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but she said she just wants a break.and space to feel things out .she didn't fully break up with me at least not yet.

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That is a break up my friend.

My girlfriend say she wants space and doesn't know if she wants to be with me. I'm giving her space no contact. If she wants space why is she contacting me. I don't get girls sometimes. Does she want to be with me or not.. so confusing.

I read your other thread,and it would seem to me that the best advice is one that you have already received..

Let it go,start no contact..

If she wanted you back,would she not be there already?

You broke up with her,then asked her back, now she is considering it, and in the mean time calling you every night...

Its time to let this one go.

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but she said she just wants a break.and space to feel things out .she didn't fully break up with me at least not yet.

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So you like playing second fiddle to someone? If a girl EVER says to me, "I want to take a break to make sure I really like you" then you can put odds better than Vegas that I would be gone like the wind.

Be a plan A guy, not a plan B. You also sound like you have very low self confidence and serious trust issues. Perhaps it would suit you better to work on your own issues for now.

Don't answer the phone simple as that and continue no contact.

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Everytime she went out I would call her like 5 times to see what she was doing. I felt that I was always being second in the relationship when I was putting her first. I felt like she didn't love me same or care. So I met up with her and broke up with her.

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When your threads were merged I noticed you were the one who initiated the break, but then changed your mind. Now she is in no hurry to take you back, but still calls you.

Either sit down and talk, without begging, or ignore her. Your problem is you are insecure and needy, and don't know how to adjust to what she wants. If as you say she is making you feel like a second fiddle to her friends, you either get your own thing to do, or leave her alone.

I don't think she wanted a break up, but was tired of you clinging on her.

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I told her I wanted to get back together. She didn't know if she wanted me back. She said I have to think about things and I'm confused and wanted space. I said OK that's fine.

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I think she is making sure you have your confused mind made up.

1) You have been flip-flopping your feelings about her. One day you tell her that you want to break up. Then you tell her that you want another chance. You seem more confused about what you want than her. How does she know that you want change your mind again and want to break up again?

2) She asked for time and space, so give it to her. Leave her alone until she sorts out your feelings. That includes not seeing her on Friday.

3) She's only contacting you and texting you because she's grown a dependence on you. For example, needing you for help with homework. That doesn't mean she's giving you another chance.

When a couple breaks up, it's difficult to cut all contact the next day. It gradually becomes less frequent.

During this time apart, I suggest that you work on yourself. You definitely sound needy and possibily controlling.

So yet another one, Me and My girlfriend have been going out for about 5 months. We really love each other a lot. But lately it hasn't been the same after she wanted space. I gave her space and eventually after a week she wanted me back. I sometimes feel like me and her are off and on. She said that sometimes she is totally in love with me and the next she's confused. I feel the same way. We both talked and decided to give it one more shot. We truly do love each other but sh's afraid it's not going to work. We are hanging out this weekend and are going to talk on Sunday. I know I have made mistakes but I'm willing to change. We both agree that when we are together we are a perfect couple. It's when were not togther that we start to fall apart. I feel like I'm more in love with her. I told her I missed her and she changed the subject. We don't carry the same conversation's anymore and I feel like things I falling apart. I really do want to be with her. Is there any advice out there that maybe can help spark up are relationship and keep it alive because I don't want to lose her.

You obviously have not taken the time to deal with your own neediness, or control. Your also under the mistaken idea that things will go back to the way they were. They won't. You also have not given enough thought to a plan to change your ways, or end your confusion.

No matter how many posts you start, or how you word the question, you will get the same advice, take time for yourself, and figure yourself out, and identify the adjustments to yourself, and get a plan of action that will accomplish those goals, tell her this, and ask her to help. Then do it, whether she can help or not.

If your confused, imagine how she feels. Your actions are very erratic

Sorry guy, sometimes there are no short cuts, easy ways out, or magic bullets, just some long hard work to be done.

Thanks man...