If 2 people believe they are meant for one another and this is a strong feeling they both share. Do you think they can make it through any challenge with one another? We have experienced so much turbulence and seem to manage through it. Now I am afraid we at our biggest challenge. I do believe we all have to chose our own path and work out our own issues, just wanted to hear what the psychics and fortune tellers feel. Are we meant for one another?

Probably not unless you both work it out
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Is the "turbulence" between the two of you? Do you mean that you have a very emotional relationship? That you argue a lot?
If so this is hardly an ideal start to a lifetime together.

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Originally Posted by Zipper

Is the "turbulence" between the two of you? Do you mean that you have a very emotional relationship? That you argue a lot?
If so this is hardly an ideal start to a lifetime together.

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We do not argue a lot. We both are going through some mid-life crisis issues. He more than me. We do have our children, we both have been divorced and have children from our first marriage, he 2 and myself 4. They tend to cause some friction, especially his oldest who moved out in August (she's 19.) They have recently argued and I was thrown in once again. I don't fear that, because he stands up for our relationship and gets very angry when she does that. It just seems that he is withdrawing from everyone the last couple of months. I worry about him personally as wanting everything to be great between us and our children.

So you actually have at least THREE separate issues here:

1) you and you man
2) your respective kids
3) his troubled relationship with his eldest

Number 1 is not going to be resolved until 2 & 3 are settled, any attempt to meld two families is fraught, have you had some kind of family meeting to bring problems up front - often it can be petty things "she puts her stuff on the dressing table where mine used to go" kind of thing and can be resolved amicably, if there is friction that could be violent perhaps family counselling might be in order.

Since you tell us the eldest has moved out (I guess you don't mean run away.. ) are He and his daughter reconciled or is she still pissed? What's her beef? Is it specific, or just not liking a "new Mom" on the scene?
If you think you can talk it out with her (on neutral ground, just the two of you) then try it, if it's just jealousy and angst you have to let her solve her own problems, just make sure that you and her Dad make it clear she is part of the family.

If he is suffering mid-life crisis on his own account, you need to get him to talk it out, he may suddenly be feeling trapped, facing life with SIX kids and a new partner, guys get skittish too, you know!
Try and get him to talk (on your own) and see what the root of it is. It may even be going grey/bald feeling his age... dig a little.

Hope this helps.

Just because 2 people are soul mates do not mean that they are going to end up together.

Oh, if I believed that I would be REALLY depressed.

Keep in mind that everyone has more than one soul mate because we have had more thanone past life. Obsession is not love, addiction is not true love, and both can be dangerous. Takes a predetermined time apart (as single people) and come back and talk after that time. Do not talk about the relationship/situation before that time is up (although you may want to each keep a diary or letters to one another that you don't give each other until the end).

"Are we meant for one another?"

I don't think yopu would be asking that question if you were. Do you?

Pray and listen to God. How do you listen? Do your part. Talk to your child and husband both together and apart. Things will be all right. Don't worry. Easier said than done? I know. I was that young child once. Love them both it will work out.