We have had parental responsibility for our granddson for nearly 10 years, he wants us to adopt him so that as in his words 'there's a part of me missing I need to totally belong to you' His mother sees him occasionaly about twice a year and now has two more children, her two others have been adopted outside of the family. She refuses to allow him to be adopted by us. Do he have any rights at all in the situation? The reason he was placed with us was because of heroin addiction and while she is making a go of things now her partner is still suspect over drugs he begs in the street and is deffinately not a good role model. Our grandson knows we are not his mummy and daddy he understands that even if he was adopted whle we would be his legal parents his mummy would still be his mummy and we would be his grandparents. We are elderly grandparents late 50's and mid 60's and while we should be relaxing instead of working to keep our grandchild he is the world to us and we love him dearly. What we could not bare to think of is that if we were for whatever reason not here for him because of an accident, he would immediately be taken into care. If we adopted him we could name some guardians for him who would continue to give him a safe environment. Our Grandchild has suffered emotional problems, he has ADHD and is being checked for ASperger's so we need to make sure he will be looked after after we are both gone. He is so keen to totally belong to us as well (he is emotionally) can anyone help with this one

Molliemoo

You cannot adopt him without the consent of his parents, which consent has to be in accordance with the rules of the Court which handles these matters in your State.


You cannot adopt him without the written consent of his parents in a format acceptable to the Court.

While you have had him 10 of his 11 years, and have loved him and raised him as you own, it would be heartbreaking for his mother to suddenly turn his life upside down and take him away.

With her and her partner's history of drug addiction and lifestyle, if you weren't in the picture, he would likely have ended up in care by now.

I realize that this is a legal situation, but why not speak to a lawyer about temporary guardianship. I am not a lawyer, but it would seem to me that having some legal status would help if you wish to make arrangements for him to be properly cared for should something happen to you.

It would also be good I think for your Grandson to know that legally, you are responsible for him, until (if it ever comes to it) your daughter can prove she is fit to parent him.

With her already adopting out two other children, I would think a judge would be sympathetic in allowing you some sort of custody arrangement to give him some security and peace of mind.

I wish you all the best with this.

You need to see an attorney. Our son gave permission and the mother didn't. We went to court with documentation of how long we have them and when she has seen them. The judge decided adoption was in the best interest of the children and she had abandoned them. Find a good family lawyer and keep a log. Let the judge speak to the child if need be. You do not always need the parents consent.

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Originally Posted by conniebaum

You need to see an attorney. Our son gave permission and the mother didn't. We went to court with documentation of how long we have them and when she has seen them. The judge decided adoption was in the best interest of the children and she had abandoned them. Find a good family lawyer and keep a log. Let the judge speak to the child if need be. You do not always need the parents consent.

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This is over a year old, long dead. What State was this in?

Indiana