My live in boyfriend needs space.
Hello! I'm 20 & my boyfriend is almost 22. We both moved to la me(2 1/2 years) him (1 1/2 years) we met through a mutual friend & was inseparable ever since. Anyway, so we've been together for about a 1 1/2 years & we spent every chance we could together for the first year just cause we didn't know that many people. But 7 months into the relationship I moved into his place cause I had probs with my roommate. But afterwards we decided to move in together officially. WE got a little studio in hollywood.
But before that we had a huge prob. He told me he loved me then basically took it back & wasn't sure if he did or not then said he needed space. I was devastated but I understood. & he also stated that he didn't know if it was a good idea to live together... so I left back to northern cali (where Im from) just to give him space & to clear my head. & day later he called me telling me he missed me so much then the night after that he told me he couldn't see life without me & that he really did love me & wanted to move in together. I camt back 2 days later we were happy & fine.
We moved into our studio for about the past 2 months. We would bicker a lot & I was starting to get jealous of all the girls he would be around cause he's an actor. All of a sudden he said he needed space again& having doubts about us living together.. & I was so confused.. & hurt. Cause lately I was mad cause he never looked forward to seeing me anymore or making plans with me. But he told me he was a wreck. He's been wanting to go back into school & he felt like his career was going no where, money issues, family issues, just a bunch. He said that he didn't have the energy to be in a relationship right now but that he loves me & he doesn't want to break up. I was mad but after a day I understood & told him that I'll be there for him & support him in whatever he does & that we can put our relationship on the back burner for now until he figures himself out & I'll do my own thing for the time being.
He also said it was because I was home all the time cause I quit my job cause it was too far & I had probs with my student loans so Im not going back to school until jan. we both miss the way our relationship used to be when we would work all day.. & see each other at night or our days off. Im trying to find a restaurant job again cause I miss working & I miss how we used to be. He hasn't been getting a lot of work either so he's been home a lot more. We're both stuck in this small studio all day & night sometimes. We agreed to do our own thing for awhile & hang out with our own friends just to get our own separate lives back.
& for extra space. I told him that for the whole month of nov id pack half my clothes & move out for the month for his extra space. Cause I really want us to work out.. I went back to nor cal again. Im trying to find a friends place I can crash for a month or so , so I can continue to find work because I am determined. So I moved out sat which is the last time I talked to him. He texted me that night asking me where I was staying & we said our byes. It was light & easy conversation. I haven't talked to him since & its weds. I don't want to invade his space & make the first move because I want him to come to me & be the one to miss me. I don't want to be that dependent girl. But its so hard cause I miss him so much. I'm trying to focus on myself my own life & my friends & making the best of it & thinking positive that this break will be good for us. Am I doing the right thing? :(
Xoxo