Hi. I am a freshman, and I really like this senior and he likes me. He isn't the type of guy who would come and go, or to get with me and eff me, he isn't like that at all! He is a sweet guy. I know he is a good kid, because he is my best friend's brother's best friend and he is a great guy! And I was thinking if we go out, will I get made fun of? People say frosh and seniors shouldn't go out because of the age difference. What do you think? I am the 14 year old girl, and he is a 17 year old senior

What does the rest of the family think?

Lots of issues including maturity level and even activities that they may have interest in. And of course to you now he is the "greatest" guy, eveyone that is the worst person latter was the perfect person when it started

Perhaps your peers have a point about the age difference.

I'm sure there are lots of nice guys in your year?

My mom doesn't even know him and she hates him.

It most likely because he is 17 and much older then you,and she's afraid.

What do your own friends think?

I'm sure there are guys your own age that are nice...

My friends like love him. He's so nice.

Date, but anything else and he'll be in major trouble.

There's a reason why adults frown upon a 3 year age difference at your age, because the 17 year old is more then just 3 years more mature then you.

At 14 you don't have the life experience to make informed decisions. At 17 his hormones are going crazy and even though he's nice, he may not be nice enough to restrain himself.

Wait a few years, then if you're still interested and he is too, then you can date.

I agree with Altenweg. I think you should date him, and see what his intentions really are. In my opinion, if you don't date him, you will "hate" your parents for not allowing this and you will always think of what could have been. Date him, and see how he is. Maybe he is one of the few guys who doesn't want sex until he is older or something. Either way, I say learn his motives.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Go ahead and date,

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Sorry Alty... I have to kind of, sort of, disagree here... Go ahead and date WITH your PARENT'S permission.

My daughter will be turning 16 this week. At 14 I would never allow her to "date" a 17 year old. I was 17 once, so was my husband... there is usually, not always, a hidden agenda with 17 year old boys. Their hormones are raging!

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Originally Posted by J_9

Sorry Alty...I have to kind of, sort of, disagree here....Go ahead and date WITH your PARENT'S permission.

My daughter will be turning 16 this week. At 14 I would never allow her to "date" a 17 year old. I was 17 once, so was my husband....there is usually, not always, a hidden agenda with 17 year old boys. Their hormones are raging!

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I really do need the sarcasm font. :(

It did come off as serious, didn't it? Darnit. I was hoping that the rest of my post would make it clear that I didn't think this was a good idea. Darn typing, not a great way to express yourself. :o

J, I totally agree with you, I wouldn't allow it either.

I get you.im in the same situation.and well I have no idea if to tell him yes or no.