My girl friend dumped me for not having sex with her. Im a virgin and I am planning on waiting until I'm married. I know that probably sonds weird coming from a guy. Anyway she said if I can't give her what she needs, she'll get it from someone else. I don't want to loose her. We've been together for a year and a half now. I love her and was wondering should I have sex with her or move on. Please post a answer.

Hearing that you want to save sex for marriage isn't weird to me- it's actually refreshing. You should've made your intentions known in the first place. When you started dating this girl, you should've made it very clear that you are saving intimacy for marriage. I wouldn't give up your values for a girl who disagrees with them. It isn't right for ANYONE- especially in this situation to demand sex.

Why would you compromise your beliefs just to save a relationship?

She's right when she says, if you can't give her what she wants, then find someone else. That actually applies to you too. If she can't give you what you want, then she should find someone else.

Move on...

If waiting until marriage is important to you, then don't allow her to bully you. Move on.

Ultimately you have to make your own decision. But I will say this ; if you're really convicted on waiting until you're married then I wouldn't bow to pressure from any woman to the contrary. Just think of all the hassles you're saving yourself, including STDs and unwanted pregnancy. All it takes is one evening to knock up a woman, then she owns you for at least the next 18 years of your life. You're actually quite wise to wait. If you've been honest and upfront with her then that's all you need to do. If she can't understand or appreciate that, then I say good riddance! Stand your ground and be firm. Even if she clicks her heels and walks away, she'll respect you all the more than if you cave in to her demands.

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You should've made your intentions known in the first place. When you started dating this girl, you should've made it very clear that you are saving intimacy for marriage.

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I have a feeling he probably has done this already.

Move on... Giving you an ultimatum like that is so wrong. This is the kind of girl, that if you gave it to her, she would up and leave anyway. Find someone with the same values as you, and be happy you have such fine ones.

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My girl friend dumped me for not having sex with her. Im a virgin and i am planning on waiting until im married. I know that probably sonds weird coming from a guy. Anyway she said if I can't give her what she needs, she'll get it from someone else. I dont want to loose her. We've been together for a year and a half now. I love her and was wondering should i have sex with her or move on. Please post a answer.

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There is a difference between what she NEEDS, and what she WANTS.

Is she a virgin too?

Do you think she is the one you might want to marry one day? If so, talk to her, and try to get her to see how important this is to you. There is plenty of time for sex.

I think you should stick to your plan. Don't change your mind because she wants you to. You'll regret it for may years to come.

If you start compromising your ideals, there is no sense in making such promises to yourself.

I tell my two children (19 & 17) that they should only date when they are ready and it goes same for sex. The girlfriend who dumped you is a loser because she can't appreciate a real gentleman. My son feels he is not ready for neither, so I respect that and also tell him ignore others who can pressure him into dating and sex.