I'm dating a guy with a 2year old daughter that he hasn't seen in almost a year. He's paying child support and has tried many times to set up a plan so that he's able to see he's daughter. She's never gone through with the plan so he's stopped trying. We've been together for 9 months and the baby momma is non-stop herassing us. She calls at all times of the day and leaves horrible messages. Stopped by a few times looking for him. I've never met this women because I'm trying really hard not to get invoved in his problems. We've had many fights about her because every time he's talked to her over the phone he gets really upset and takes it out on me. I'm not sure what to do with the situation, he's changed his number a few times but she some how found it. I love him a lot. Is there something I could do so it doesn't bother me as much?

Leave him alone to deal with his issues, I mean all the way alone. It's a big red flag that he takes the grief she gives him, out on you.

They both need to resolve whatever issues they have, or you can never have peace to have a healthy relationship, so remove yourself from this equation, or be sucked into his mess.

If you stay ( and you probably will try to) stop allowing him to treat you badly.

Boyfriend needs to hire an attorney and stop playing around with her.
He files for court ordered visits, gets a court order and has his days to see his child, that is all there is too it. If she refuses mediation ordered by the court, then he normaly gets what ever he asks for.

You file with the court and get a order that all contact should be through a specific phone or even theough the attorney and so on.

If he gets mad at you, pack up and leave, since he is allowing it to happen by
1. talking to her to start with, just hang up.
2. get a tresspass order if she keeps coming ove uninvited.