I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I've lived with him for 2, I love him so much and he means the world to me but he never wants to have sex with me well I say never he says I can have it once a month the thing is I feel awful I feel like he hates me or that the only reason he is with me is because I do everything no joke I tidy up cook do the washing he does not do anything he goes to work 9till5 Monday to Friday then comes home and sits at his comuter till 12 in the morning he gets most of my money I work 55 hour weeks to support us as I pay all the bills and I don't get any thing in return I don't know what to do he means so much to me but I feel like I'm going crazy I cry every day and feel like I shouldn't be eating I've started running and going to the gym and no I feel like I don't even want to come home am I being silly I need some help.:(

I don't think your being silly I think your being treated like a doormat/maid/mother/fool.

He is using you.. he gets all the comforts of home without any effort on his part,and has the gaul to allow you to have sex once a month!

He is the child in this relationship and you are the parent!

I would get rid of this parasitic man child from my life as soon as possible.

Its time to resign from the position of unpaid housekeeper,mother and once a month sex buddy.
He s not treating with any respect whatsoever and for your own sake you should leave him.
This has nothing to do with love,it's emotional abuse.

You care so much for a guy who takes everything, and gives you nothing? That makes no sense to me. What makes sense would be for you to change this arrangement, for one more equal, so tell him get his act together, or get out.

Your life consists of working 55 hours a week, cooking and cleaning. You are with someone who shows you no affection or concern, and as Red says "allows you to have sex once a month". You don't seem to make any of the choices in your relationship and seem only to do what he wants. It's no wonder you cry every day and don't want to come home. I think it's time to figure out what you want in life and what you want in a relationship. I'm sure it's more than this. I'm glad you are running and going to the gym - healthy things for you. I'm assuming you don't feel as good about the way you look as you'd like and that's why you allow him to treat you this way. I hope you can change your mindset quickly - you deserve so much more.

If he can't provide you what you want and need in a relationship, then show him the door. There's no reason for you to suffer. You obviously deserve better than this.