Thank you so much for listening to me. So last year by boyfriend tom asked me out and I said yes we lasted for 3 months then we broke up around January. My nosey friend hooked us back together. I like him in all but I don't want a boyfriend. When he asked me out I didn't have the heart to say no. now I don't have the heart to say can we be friends. He is really hott and really nice and he is the star quaterback and I am a cheerleader (sounds gay I know) I need your advice should I break up wit him or stay wit him. Do I lay it mellow for a little bit or do I jujst fake my love? Ty for your time and the more comments the better!

Do not under any circumstances fake your love! It will only cause that much more pain when the relationship ends.

Yes break up with him.

You are doing worse by him by not being honest. If you really cared about his feelings as much as you think you did then you would be completely honest and up front with him.

Don't string him on. It will only get worse for both of you the longer you leave it!

Yep! Lying about love is a sure-fire road to heartache for everybody involved. Let him down easy if you can maybe, but not so easy that he doesn't get the message. Far better to say "I like you but don't really love you" and let him do with it what he can. That gives you both the freedom to go about your business. Stringing him along to avoid hurting his feelings is worse than hurting his feelings.

Well how do you know if he is not just faking it too?

Well, if you don't want a boyfriend break up.

Like my peeps say, don't lie.

IT HURTS!!

Do what you think is best for you.

He might not always be there!

Love is kinda hard to find these days!!

Peace!

Hoped i helped!

By faking love your actually faking the biggest love of the relationship. Your lying to him about your feelings towards him. For both of your sakes I think you need to let him go.

Hmmm tough one... why couldn't he just be a friend with benefits?

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Originally Posted by krisxoxotin

thank you so much for listening to me. so last year by boyfriend tom asked me out and i said yes we lasted for 3 months then we broke up around january. my nosey friend hooked us back together. i like him in all but i dont want a boyfriend. when he asked me out i didnt have the heart to say no. now i dont have the heart to say can we be friends. he is really hott nd really nice nd he is the star quaterback nd i am a cheerleader (sounds gay i know) i need your advice should i break up wit him or stay wit him. do i lay it mellow for a little bit or do i jujst fake my love? ty for your time nd the more comments the better!

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Be totally honest with him, he will respect you more for that, instead of faking your love for him, that can't last forever he will soon find out and be more hurt.

I caution you to stick by what you believe as I see you being easily manipulated into doing things you don't want to do. Start being honest and stand up for yourself and you won't be in these awkward situations.

As others have prety well said, break up.

Also, and this is going to sound harsh but I really mean it honestly for your well being... you need to get a backbone and learn to say no. for your health and the health of others.

We do enough things to screw our lives and relationships up as it is... one of the KEY things you will need to be happy in life is the ability to know what you want and to communicate that to others. SO MANY problems get posted here where people just don't talk openly.

So... don't feel badly about what you want. Its what you want. Feel badly about being with a guy and leading him on because you couldn't say no. then get over it and tell him you are done. Be selfish and strong enough to do what you already know is right.

You posted here, so you are already on the right track... finish the deal. Drop the guy. Don't do it again. Better to be honest about what you want.

If you start saying yes to things such as a commitment when you don't really mean it, think about how this will go on to affect you in the future and other very important decisions you will have to make.

I am focusing on the soft-heartedness first because I have a family member who is exactly the same way. You have the right to any choice you make, but good or bad there is always a consequence. Start saying no when you mean it, sometimes you have to think more with your mind than your heart.

It is very important that you back off right away, you nor him needs someone who stays by your/his side simply because they feel bad.

Be his friend, and make it clear that you don't want to be anything more than that. :)

Be honest with him. If there is no spark for you when you hang out - then break up.

Do not, under any circumstances, lead this guy on. He may hurt for a while - but it sounds like Tom needs to learn a lesso nas well.