This guy is my cousin's friend. He showed his interest in me. We were talking since few months over the internet and phone calls and met each other after 2-3 months. We met twice and this guy tried to be cozy, though he never forced me. Then again when we met he tried to be cozy.. n when I stopped him he got a little upset and tried to make me understand hw relationships go. But then after that he never bothered to call me up. I thought he must be busy with his work as I know he is pretty much occupied with 'n' number of things, professionally. But I used to call him up once in a week just to know hw things are. And whenever we used to talk he used to talk about relationships and the kind of girl he wants to be with. He gave me hints of the kind of girl he wants and the description almost suited my personality. But then again we didn't talk for few days. But after sumtime I called him and then we met again and he said he wants to be in a relationship with me and I showed my consent. Now again he is not calling me up. And when I call he says he is occupied with work. I simply don't understand his behaviour. Is he not interested in me?

First, how old are you?

Second, a word of advice about posting on AMHD, chat and text speak is not allowed. On the some of the forums that rule is a bit relaxed, however, in the more adult related topics, it is strictly enforced and can get your posts deleted.

Third, it sounds like all this guy wants is sex. It sounds like he was feeding you a line about what he wants in a girl. More than likely that changes with the girl he is trying to 'hook up' with.

Leave this guy alone and find someone who is looking for what you want in a relationhip.

Thanks for replying to my post! I take your piece of advice.

I am 24 yrs old and he is 28.

Hmmm. He sounds like a bit controlling to me - first he tries to get 'cozy' with you against your wishes, then he runs hot and cold, now he's ignoring you.

Not a good start. I'd stop calling and take back some control. I certainly would not depend on his so called interest in you to lead to anything.

If you want a relationship then this guy isn't the one to pursue.

Stop calling him-he got what he wanted and you should allow yourself to get back in the driver's seat and not worry about him anymore.

His talk sounded good on paper, but now that you met him, his actions don't match his words. His words have drawn you in, and the only action he wants is with your body.

Not exactly what you expected, nor wanted is it?

I wouldn't invest a dime of my time with a guy who doesn't say what he means, or means what he says, because then its all you giving, and him taking what he wants. Its obvious he wants a willing slave to his needs.

RUN RUN RUN away from this creep.

He's trying to control you and convince you of what you need to do to become the type of person he wants! Believe me, all he wants from you is sex and then it'll be over.

Honey, don't ever change for any man. A man should love you and want you for who you are - not who he wants you to become! BE YOUR OWN PERSON!