I live in PA, I have 2 children 4 and 9, by the same father. We have discussed him signing up parental rights and he is for this 100%. I would like to put a stipulation that he will not be held responsible for child support or health insurance. He does not call the children, see them, or have any part in their lives at all. Everything is a hassle, takes me a month to get insurance cards from him, etc. We both agree this is the best thing for the kids and if I would happen to get married one day it will leave the option for that person to adopt the children as his own. I would like to know how to go about alll this, how to get started and what the process is. Thank you for your time.

You generally CAN'T do what you're asking.

Not UNTIL someone is ready to adopt

You just can't do this. You need to have him pay the child support for these 2 children regardless if he likes it or not - he is their father and has a financial responsibility that he must own up to. If he does not pay child support then he will be before a Judge and the Judge will straighten out this pathetic person in a heartbeat what he can and can't pay for.

As others will tell you, there are "stickies" posted at the beginning of this forum which answer your question. Simply put, it is almost impossible to have a parent voluntarily sign away his/her rights other than to pave the way for an adoption, as others have already said. Particularly if the main motive for doing so is to evade child support. Has there been a support order levied against him already? If so, then the PA court system will enforce that order, with or without any further action taken by you. If there isn't, then you always have the option of not suing him for support. That's not necessarily the path I would recommend as there are moral considerations involved with deciding to deprive your children of the support they need and deserve from their father. If you were to ever need to apply for public assistance, one requirement would be that you pursue a judgment of child support against the father.