I am married and have two kids. I have been unhappily married and am attracted to women. What should I do, stay married or divorce and go after my desires.


Stacey

This thread should perhaps be directed to Adult Sexuality.

You are the only person who can answer this question. I was married when I finally came to the realization that I was a lesbian... however, I had no kids. In my case, I left my husband and came out properly, attended a group, got counseling, etc.

I guess you should ask yourself if you love your husband... are you willing to go to couple's counseling, or is this revelation a deal-breaker for you? Even if this is a deal-breaker, it might be beneficial to attend a couple of counseling sessions with your husband anyway. You'll need time to work out your new relationship with him, visitation, etc. Good luck... I know this isn't easy.

I think the most important thing you need to take in is what affect this may have on your kids. If you are a true lesbian and know for sure what you want then try to work it out with your husband as peaceful as possible as to not affect your kids more than it already will.

There are tons of same sex couples out there with children, maybe reach out to some of those groups to seek advice and insight.

But it is not worth it to be unhappy for the rest of your life. Just think it through, do your research, take one step at a time and try to go at it with a positive and peaceful outlook on your relationship with your husband and children.

Good luck and I hope happiness finds you where it needs to.