My husband has a female friend
Hello I am very new to all of this and will soon be celebrating my first anniversary. I have recently learned that my husband has a female coworker that he converses with a lot more than I knew. He told me that it all started when I went into a depression after tearing my acl at work and that he tried to get me out of my slump... They talk to each other everyday for hours at a time on the phone and the hundreds and hundreds of text messages. I spoke to him about this endless times and he said that I was being controlling and I should not be. He also said that I am jealous and need not be as if he were to make her go away he would not be the same... well he did eventually make her go away but that was short lived. They talk all the time and it hurts me beyond words. If I even ask him about it he gets defensive... She is also married with children and is a Christian woman. He says that they help each other and both have morals and values and neither would ever stray from their committed partners... Am I over reacting? I have been cheated on many times in past relationships. I love my husband and trust him not to stray but he just doesn't understand that the hours of mindless conversation with this woman hurt me... any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I am hitting rock bottom... marriage counseling won't work as he does not believe in that... I am not an angry person just very hurt.