Hello everyone!

I am 28 yrs.old and I met a cute guy at my gym. He said he's 24. Do you guys think that the age difference is a big deal?
Anyway, it's been real hard for me to even begin anything with him. I really like him but I haven't gotten over my ex. And I have actually been a bit mean with this guy which led to him not talking to me anymore unless I see him at the gym (which is quite awkward).

What do you guys think? Help!

I don't think that age is the issue. You are not ready to begin a new relationship and you are being hurtful to him in the process, instead of direct and honest.

He has chosen to not even pursue a friendship with you, I would allow him that request, as your behavior has not been beneficial to a friendship or even beginning a relationship.

Age has little to do with the issues created in this situation.

Nope I am 23 and my fiancé is 26, 27 in February. Don't really even think about the age thing anymore, it's nothing but a number

Age doesn't hurt a thing there. When I was 18 I was in a relationship with a 30 year old for 6 months. Nothing was affected by our age. Something with a little difference as you and this guys age shouldn't matter. Just try giving this guy a break and be nicer and work on getting over your ex in the mean time. Maybe something could happen with you two and it could be wonderful. Just try getting completely over your ex so this guy doesn't become a guy who was in the thought of your ex.

If he was 14 and you were 18 it would be a big deal.

The problem I would find is you say your not completely over your ex yet.

There's not much point jumping into something new,if you are still hurting over an old relationship.

You could say to the new guy,that your sorry for snapping you were having a bad hair day and give him a beautiful big smile!

At least you will be on talking terms and going to the gym will be easier.

Is age important? I don't know, you tell me. It's a personal preference.

Age isn't the problem here. You're both well into your 20s.

The problem here is that you're not over your ex yet. So this new guy at the gym is your rebound. Focus on recovering from your break up first before you pursue another relationship. You can be friends with this guy from the gym.

I donk think 28 and 24 is that much of an age gap to even question.
You seem more concerned with not being over your ex. Work on that first before your mean to the next guy who likes who.

You need to apologise to the guy. Rebound, new love, celebrity, whatever; being mean doesn't help anyone.

As to age, once you pass the magic number (21), it doesn't really matter.

Jack Benny waited too long with his innumerable 39th birthdays. I stopped counting at 22. Of course my 22nd birthday could have voted for Reagan.

Your question shouldn't be about the age difference but if you should pursue someone when your not over your Ex yet?

And the answer as everyone else has pointed out is NO , get over your ex first and then you can think about pursueing another relationship.


Ps: When that happens your age difference in this case is not a problem.

Age can be important - in another post in this section she's 20 and he's 62.

Now that's an age difference...

In your case - nope.

Thank you all for your answers! It really helped ;)