What do I do about a father that has been abusing prescription medicine's for as long as I have been born and refuses to quit? He's 52 yrs old. Almost 2 yrs ago he lost both of his feet to a gallbladder infection that caused septic shock and heart failure. Me and my mom would drive 40miles to Philly to see him EVERYDAY because my parents didn't have a car I had to go, right after working all day and living 10miles away from my mom who I had to pick up first and backtrack to philly. Then, a yr ago my mom dies. OF LIVER FAILURE. My parents have both been abusing medicine since I was little, without my knowledge until I was about 18. Now all my dad does is sit in his room, grieve over my mom, and do his pills. I was the one that found my mom dead on her bed. I have nightmares almost every night because of it. It was 17 days before my birthday. And now a yr later and I'm pregnant and my mom isn't here with me. But am I doing medicine to cope with it? No. I deal. But my dad, he won't stop! Hes going to die just like my mom and I don't know what to do about it. Me my sister and my brother are all enablers! But he needs the pain meds for his legs. But he takes literally 10or more AT A TIME because he's been taking them for so long and he's so ammuned though them. It makes me really sad and I don't know what to do anymore. I can't be apart of this much longer. What should I do?

Amanda, is your dad in a nursing home at present ? Because if he isn't, he should be somewhere where there is a proper doctor and nurses to control his medication and pain.

Tick

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Originally Posted by tickle

Amanda, is your dad in a nursing home at present ? Because if he isnt, he should be somewhere where there is a proper doctor and nurses to control his medication and pain.

tick

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my dad lives in his house with both of my brothers. He lived in a hospital for two yrs when he got his legs amputated. But ever since mom died, he doesn't seem to care much about anything. And when any of us kids say anything about the amount of meds he's taking or the fact that his wife died of liver failure because of the excessive amount of meds she was taking doesn't even effect him. He says he neeeeeeds them. Well I need at least one parents but he's too selfish to see that. I just don't know what to do. Its either deal with it and wait until something bad happens or make him stop the pills by not taking him to the docs to get the scripts anymore. But the thing is, he's tried to kill himself multiple times. He's been in and out of the mental hospital at least 5 times in the past 5 yrs. Just for a few days. Then he gets out and he's normal. It drives me crazy. Its too much to deal with. He's in a lot of pain and he has been before the amputation. (we were in a car accident 20 yrs ago and he's needed a hip replacement since then, that's when he stopped working, and never worked again.)