I sometimes have difficulty having an orgasm every time when I have sex. I can reach to climax but I can't get I guess you would say over the hump. LOL Its not that my boyfriend doesn't stimulate me, he is a great lover. We have tried different things such as, oral, fingering, vibrater, different positions. He is very understanding and tells me to just relax, he knows this is very frustrating for me. I know I can have orgasms, it just frustrates me that I don't have them every time. I had a hysterectomy 8yrs ago, could this possible have something to do with it? Any suggestion would be helpful. :confused:

If you can bring yourself to orgasm by way of masturbation,than your hysterectomy has nothing to do with it.
It is not easy for most women to orgasm during intercourse.
Manual stimulation is what gets most woman to climax.
Try different positions where you control your clitoral stimulation.
You can also stimulate yourself manually when he has brought you close to orgasm.

Are you a diabetic or on anti-depressants? Both can cause this problem. I would start at your doctors first.

Charleen50

No, I am not a diabetic or on anti-depressants. I do stimulate my clitoris, maybe I am over stimulating it. I don't know. Is there any technics that can help me relax, and maybe not think about if I am going to orgasm?

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Originally Posted by tmac70

No, I am not a diabetic or on anti-depressants. I do stimulate my clitoris, maybe I am over stimulating it. I don't know. Is there any technics that can help me relax, and maybe not think about if I am going to orgasm?

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I would just close my eyes and get into the physical sensations.Just feel the moment.
Lose all thought and simply get lost in the feelings.

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Originally Posted by artlady

I would just close my eyes and get into the physical sensations.Just feel the moment.
Lose all thought and simply get lost in the feelings.

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I have tried that, but will keep trying. I have had them with intercourse, but not so much here lately. Thanks for the info.

A woman's mind is the biggest barrier to her achieving orgasm.

You want this so much that you're stressing yourself out over it.

You have to stop thinking of orgasm as the goal. Just enjoy yourself, relax, have fun. I wouldn't be at all surprised if you had an orgasm once you stop obsessing about it.