I moved in with a man that I am madly in love with.I over looked the fact that he does not have money and never will. He is raising his 9 year old son alone just like me with my 10 year old son. We moved in to a house that we could only afford together and things started to change. He just talked about how much he loved the house and it becamse about the house and having his friends out to the house. He stopped emailing me the sweet things he use to say to me everyday. Within 6 weeks of moving in, he picked a fight with me and left with his son and went to a friend of his birthday party and did not say a word to me. His ex was there and from what I understand he was all over her crying to her to take him back. I had just put done 1000 dollars on a truck and the truck is in my name as well as the insurance for him. Now it is all my fault that I was treating him like a puppet and he is moving out. Leaving me with all the bills and the house I really can not afford, plus he has the truck that is in my name and is not coming back. His little boy had started calling me mom, I am attached to him. How could he do this to me:confused:

Hello S,

I am not an expert on law, so I will not give you any legal advice on how to handle the fact that he has your truck and it's in your name. Maybe someone else can help you with that. However, I am an expert in relationships.

S, it seems to me that you were a rebound. He had broken up with his last girlfriend, then moved in with you. Lets face it, you were a sugar momma! I am sorry to for being so blunt. He used you! You became that "Convienient Roommate". My advice to you is to just move on and know that he was/is/and always will be a looser. It was a hard learning lesson.. Next time you think about moving in with another, make sure you are with that person for a long time first.

I would get that truck back too if I were you!


Good luck

Get a house mate, and get your truck back, simply report it stolen, if he doesn't bring it back willingly.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It's too late to reverse the past, so hopefully you learnt your lessons. Make sure you know someone very well before moving in with them and sharing finances.

For now, Tal is right, get a housemate to help pay some rent to bring you some extra income. You can also try to sell the house to get back all the money.

As for the truck, Tal is also right, if he doesn't bring it back willingly, then report it as stolen. You can take him to court to get back half the value of the truck.

However, I also hope that you do not plan on getting back with this irresponsible ex boyfriend of yours.

The car is stolen, it was your property, he took it without your permission. Give him a quick phone call and say "if you do not return my vehicle I will be forced to report it stolen" and then hang up. Wait 1 hour and then call the local police department.

As for the house, ask a friend to move in?

Ouch, this is a very unfortunate position you are in. I am assuming you did not know this man very long before moving in with him.
I think everyone's response is on the dot. Whatever you do, do not take this guy back. He is such a loser!