I have a car that I pay a high car note and I tried to refinance it but I paid way too much for the car and they won't I have a friend that would take over the note how do we put it in her name now if she has bad credit,I don't want to take her word that she will pay it I want to be completely rid of the responsibly?

You contact the leder and see if they will let this person take over the note.
If they say yes, great, if they say no, there is nothing you can do expect see if they can get a loan somewhere else.