I met a guy at a party and we hit it off immediately. There was an immediate spark between us so we went back to his place. I stayed the night and we had a really passionate, romantic night. It was completely magical. We didn't have sex however. The next morning we both had things to do so he asked for my number and I left. He texted me later that day saying what a great time he had. We then met up the next weekend to go on a date. We went to a restaurant to have dinner. This was my first date however though and I was extremely nervous and really stupid so when he was in the toilet, I called my ex to talk about how it was going. He came back when I was still on the phone and things went a bit downhill from there. I was sooo nervous that I didn't laugh at his jokes or anything. We decided to go to a bar. When we got there my friend was there (I didn't know she would be there) and she was really drunk. A group of us were having a conversation when suddenly my drunk friend lifts my dates's top up and strokes his chest. She giggles and he enjoys it and lets her carry on doing it. Later on, she asks him, if he's interested in me then why isn't he paying any attention to me?'. He turned around, eyed her and then said 'I think YOU'RE interesting' to my friend with a flirtatious smile. I then asked him about what he just said and he completely denied saying that even though I just heard him.
So we ended up going on a few more dates and things were going really well. However when he came to visit me for the first time, he asked me where my friend was and kept asking 'how old is she'? And stuff like that. He was making me feel really hurt and uncomfortable. I turned around and said look why are you even here with me if it's her that you want? I said do you like her? He said yes and that he would have sex with her. I said well why the hell don't you go and see her then. She's just down the road. He said he prefers me though. I then just stopped talking to him because I was uncontrollably angry. He didn't say he was sorry but just said I'll wait until you're not angry anymore. After a while he then apologised and said he didn't want it to ruin our day together but I'm not sure if he was genuine. I get the impression he only apologised because there was such tension between us and he felt obliged.
I feel sooo hurt and betrayed right now. Words can't describe. Is this normal behaviour for a man you're dating, to tell you that he wants to have sex with your friend? It seems so cruel. Or am I just overreacting? Things are going really well between us and the sex is great. He says I'm beautiful. I just can't understand why he would go and ruin it
By saying something like that. I have begun to notice already that he's incredibly jealous and doesn't like me hanging around with my male friends. Is this his way of getting back at me or something? Why would he do this? Does he care about me whatsoever?