My girlfriend of nine months as told me for the last four months or so that she does not know if I am the right one for you long term. She claims that its because our life goals are not the same but we have never discussed them. She is still emotionally unstable two years after a divorce from a marriage of 20 plus years. She also tells me that she doesn't know if she will ever find another person to be close to again, says she feels like damaged goods. She also tell this same stuff to her friends while adding that she doesn't think she will ever find another soul mate. Kind of makes me feel like chop liver. I will add that she doen not say I'm not the one but she doesn't say I am either. I am trying to be patient in hopes that she can move on from the divorce but I don't want to stay if I am just the guy to be with until things get better. So... should I stay or should I go?

It sounds very much like she still has a lot of healing to do, she needs to build up her confidence and self esteam.

Making another commitment will be a scary thought for her,and taking a chance won't be high on her list.

You have only been together for a short amount of time,really does it need to be this serious?

Wheres the dating and enjoying each others company gone?

I would suggest you relax,let her deal with her problems,don't be pushy for an answer,and have some light hearted fun.

I will admit, I can be very pushy but I try so hard to not be. Do you think it's simple she is not ready or is there no future. She did tell me today that she has dep feelings for me but also said she didn't see herself as being Mrs. XXXXX.

I think she has made herself clear. The question is can you except the terms?